My friend is 47 yrs old and pregnant... should she have it?

Question

She already has to kids in there 20's that dont agree to keep it. She just got married and doesnt know what to do please help.

Answer 1

I dont think that pregnancy here is the issue, the issue here is the dilemma the lady is faced with having her own children not agreeing on her to have the baby. But i guess the children need to understand that if the lady has married - this is a natural thing to happen, the way those kids happened to her and she is as free as any other person to have a right to decide what she wants from her life. Whether she wants to keep the child or no is her own decision. Just because she is a mom of kids who are in their 20's does not deprive her of the right to her own freedom and her own likes and dislikes from life. I think she should not feel guilt to have conceived her child. this is the most beautiful thing to happen to a woman especially if she agrees with her partner to have one. I am sure before conceiving she would have given it a serious thought, and would have looked up at all the pros and cons that could happen with this child coming on its way. I guess she should make her children understand her situation and communicate with them and make them put themselves in her position and think in retrospect as to what they would have done, had they been put in her situation and if they were to go through her circumstances. I guess its a tough job to do, especially with teens - but its worth a try if she really wants to have the child. She has all the right in this world to have her child and its her decision. Just becoz she is 47, it does not put a stigma on her that she is old and should have thought about getting pregnant. For god's sake get out of the narrow minded societal norms and broaden up. people in US, UK and other countries get married at 35-40 years average and start having kids whenever they feel. IF ones mind and body is ready and ur gut feeling is ready - why should one think so much. Yes, provided the lady in question can address the concerns of her two children and I think if she opens up and talks to them freely - they would understand. it may take time, but they would.

Answer 2

I am 47 years old now if I were to get pregnant I would keep it and love it as much as the 20 year olds if they don't agree they don't have to live with her there is nothing wrong with her having the baby why most grandparents end up raising their grandchildren this day and time because there aren't any jobs out there and young people can't afford them.

Answer 3

That's not up to us... that's up to your friend. However there are serious risks to having a baby at 47, not only to the baby but to her as well. She needs to think long and hard about it.. not to mention, she's going to be 64 when this baby goes to prom... 70ish when he/she gets married... Is this something she's wanting to deal with at an age that she should be relaxing on a beach in florida? To be honest though she's already pregnant, not much she can do now, unless she believes in the alternative, i dont though so thats gotta be a decision she makes.

Answer 4

There is an increased risk of genetic problems such as Down's syndrome in a geriatric pregnancy. An amniocentesis can be used to detect abnormalities of this type, and would provide useful information for making any decision. Aside from that, it's up to the family.

Answer 5

If your friend has the child , I am willing adopt a baby, I will take it.
I have been trying to find a "baby for 4 years now. I have been accepted as a legal adoptive parent in Canada and Internationally but I am still waiting for a placement of a child with me. If your friend has the child and has 2 already , she would amke my dreams come true!!!
I live in Canada ..Toronto, Canada. I want a baby very badly and love children. I had 2 miscarriages and now I was looking to find an adoptive child. What nationality is your friend??? Are you in the USA?

O h please , please write to me.

Answer 6

expensive lovechild, My heart condolences and sympathies in direction of your daughter’s dying. Having a son of my very own elderly 9, i will understand the sensation. i will’t think of life without my new child. not something can console the loss. I pity for you and pray god that he ought to provide you peace and supply you sufficient potential. I additionally experience for the dad. He could be feeling to blame in the process his life. injuries or injuries, they are not planned. it is destiny. Blaming him and beating the hell out of him and leaving is a incorrect pass which you probably did. You the two ought to have long previous forward and had one greater new child. This time he could have been greater in charge father. Now which you have left him, you may’t do something approximately it. have faith me whilst we communicate he could be suffering better than you because it happened because of the fact of him. solid which you're in a sparkling relationship. If even this guy isn't involved in new child, even he would be an irresponsible dad. think of one hundred cases in the previous you opt for new child. consult with him and convince him. With heat regards Gentleman

Answer 7

She should have it and if she doesn't want it she can always give it up for adoption. Being that she has other kids - no matter the age, she will probly have a larger regret than say - a teen that gets an abortion. Reccomend to her that there are lots of people in the world that would love a child and can't have their own......

Answer 8

Lots of women are having children in their 40's. Why would her grown kids have any say in this? If she has just gotten married, her husband may be more thrilled than she thinks. I guarantee she will be a better mom this go round and more relaxed about it. What a wonderful gift of youth!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

If you're talking safety-wise, there's no reason why she shouldn't have it. With the right prenatal care, she can have a healthy baby.

If you are talking about anything else, then it is her decision alone. If the two kids in their 20s don't live with her then their opinion is really moot.