When I get home at 3pm from work my wife showers and leaves everyday and I am starting to resent her?

Question

I have tried talking to her but she doesnt care,the kids cry everyday when she leaves but again it doesnt seem to faze her, so we are stuck home alone everynight with no veichle, and I am left to cook dinner, as well as do all the clean up and laudry. My kids are in school during the day and my wife does not work.. Can anybody help?????????PLEASE

Answer 1

I used to do the same thing to my hubby, and NO, I was not cheating.

I was overwhelmed. Kid exhausted. Felt like I had no contact with the outside world for awhile, until I started leaving every day. Then I became addicted to the outside world. Couldn't get enough of it.

It got better for us when we began to communicate. I decided to work out side the home even though the first few years it was not much of a financial benefit due to daycare costs. Only meant about $200 a month increase in income for the house. Hardly mattered for money, but for my mental health it was the world.

Finally my family missed me. Finally they appreciated the things I did.

Communication is the key! Better get on it buddy!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Whenever I see a question like this one - I still ask - where is the communication in this relationship? I wonder what would happen if you don't come home right away? It is very obvious that you and your wife have stopped talking to each other. Do you spend any time with her? You say 'you've tried talking to her' - how? what is the enviromment like? Sometimes, women need a wake up call. Inviter her on a date - arrange for a babysitter and talk her to dinner and some wild and crazy dancing - whatever you did to 'get her' - return to that. Men have a tendency to forget that whatever it took to get that woman will take that and some to keep her. Your marriage might be stale. She is probably hungry for love, fliratation and attention. Share in the responsibilibies of the home and the children - even though you may work. Ask her if she wants to go to school? Work a part time job? She just may need the environment of grown people. Do you you go WITH her to school functions for your children? Some men leave it all up to the woman. She might be trying to tell you something. When was the last time you sent or gave her flowers? Bought her something nice? Sent her a card? Dated her? Showed her you appreciated her? It's a two-way street. You start showing more love toward her and she might just re-direct her love toward you. You still need to sit down and talk - but make it a happy occasion. Don't get in too deep with the conversation - keep it light - and see where it all goes. If you love your wife and want to save your family - you'll know what to do. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Well, for one, this situation has nothing to do with how most stay at home wives/husbands act. Typically, if one partner is the breadwinner, the other takes total care od the household (cleaning, cooking, shopping, possibly finances ect...). It's suppose to be each partner filling a different role, but still putting in an equal amount of work. I work part time (because I simply can't fill my days cooking and cleaning for just myself and my husband), but my primary role is the stay at home wife, while he's the one with a full time job and the primary breadwinner. Trust me, I work every bit as hard as him. I make breakfast every morning, make him a lunch to take to work (saves money), make a full dinner every night. I keep our apartment spotless, our clothes and linens washed and pressed, I tailor all my husbands clothes (he's an odd size) and I also handle all our finances and make sure bills are paid on time and all household shopping is done. My husband basically has to go to work in the morning, and I take care of the rest. It wouldn't be fair otherwise, and I wouldn't expect him to be happy if all I did all day was sit around. What your boyfriend is doing is called leeching. He isn't fufilling any role in your relationship beyond taking up space and being a warm body. It is beyond unfair to you what he's doing. I would dump him now before he sucks anymore money and energy out of you. The money your using to support him can go towards caring for your child, which is a MUCH better use than caring for him. Since you are having a baby together, leave the door open for him to be in the Childs life as much as he wants, but boot his sorry a** out of yours and find a respectable man who's willing to put in an equal amount of work into a relationship. It takes 2 people to make a relationship work.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for your trouble. You should think about this carefully. It sounds as though she neglecting her marriage and children. I think first you need to talk to her, and you need to know what she's doing while she's gone. Then you have a decision to make regarding whether or not you want to continue in a relationship like that and more importantly whether or not this will have a bad effect on your children. I dont know how long you have been married or how old your children are. But I do know that all marriages go through occassional hard times. Its up to you two to decide if you can save yours. Good luck to you all.

Answer 5

First off why is she leaving at 3 if she doesn't work? I would have a serious talk with her and thell her the marriage is a 2 person deal. Only one person CAN NOT do the work it takes 2 to keep a family together! I commend you for taking the responsiblities!

Answer 6

Hmm doesnt sound good at all. It sounds like shes not in love with you anymore. Unfortunatly that would hurt you, but she needs to talk to you and tell you the truth. I would tell her this
" If you dont tell me whats wrong i am going to leave". Sometimes you need to scare her a little to get an answer out if she wont tell you. I would leave and take the kids with you somewhere. She is being really selfish.

I dont know if this is good advise but maybe see a councilor. :/ i have no idea good luck

Answer 7

My question is why is she leaving? First you need to find out why, then I would find time (she has to come home sometime) and make her listen to your concerns. Follow her around stating your piece if you must. I am not really sure. Another option (less popular anymore) is to pray. You would be surprised what God will show/tell you. Hope this helps. Sorry I don't have more than that.

Answer 8

She seems really self-absorbed. Why is she not working? Wat is she doing when she leaves? I would recommend, while your wife's in the shower, take your kids out and take the car and go to the park or to a movie, then dinner. Tell her you and the kids get tired of staying home alone every night and eating in. Dont' give her the car keys.

Answer 9

Where does she have to go everyday? Did you do anything to contribute to her behavior? It sounds like she's being rebellious. Obviously somethings bothering her. You guys really need to talk. I don't know how but you have to find a way to get through to her before it goes any further.

Answer 10

Pack her stuff. Put it out on the front lawn. Change the locks and tell her when she is ready to act like a wife and mother she can see her kids again.