people want the girl or boy they cant have.?

Question

when people want the girl or guy they cant have then they get her, then he dosnt want her anymore because he or she has him or her now. how do you overcome such a problem?

Answer 1

Well, I think the only solution is to get a vision correction. The entire situation is dedicated to selfishness. If one is seeking a relationship for purely personal pleasure, and finds the chase of an unavailable person thrilling, then they are in it for themselves. Unless you actually care about the person you are getting into a relationship with, you will cease to want them at some point, because the honeymoon has to end, and if all you care about is yourself, you'll go find another honeymoon.

Answer 2

Chemically, falling in love is similar to “Crack”. Both increase the “Dopamine” level in the brain pleasing you. Most people don’t get addicted to this sensation, however, some do. Recovering is like the 12 step program alcoholics go through. Unchecked and this person could be dating tons of people at the same time and stil feel lonely.

I was watching a Kevin Bacon movie and he was dating 5 women simultaneously, and he was lonely. I asked YA why he’d be lonely, and I got two great answers:

1. Believe in God says, “Well the funny thing is, the more women he is dating the more isolated he will feel. Isolation is due to lack of connection. When you love someone you have a connection to their heart much as a spaceman is connected to his spacecraft with a lifeline so that he doesn't stray off into space when outside his spacecraft.

If you have 5 such lifelines, you never really get to really connect with anyone and hence the isolation. You cannot love more than 1 person. True love that is. Once you love someone, nobody else matters. “

2. And Sun-Soak-Skins says”Isolation sets in when he no longer knows what / who is it he really wants to be with. This is a phase of confusion followed by an act of isolation, with the intention to break away from the five women and finding someone he really loves only to realise that he would get bored with just one women and start the whole cycle all over again.

This man would be a very indecisive person and also someone who can't set his mind on something and pursue it till the very end. He is afraid to make these negative traits known to someone. At the end of the day, he stands alone, waiting for the day where he can finally overcome his flaws.“

In short, it's a chemical addiction with no pill to cure ... just the 12 step program.

Answer 3

The Kṛṣṇa consciousness movement is so beneficial that it can very easily counteract the contamination of material nature, which results from one's possessing a material body. Bhagavad-gītā therefore teaches, in the very beginning, that whether one is a man or a woman, one must know that he or she is not the body but a spiritual soul. Everyone should be interested in the activities of the spirit soul, not the body. As long as one is activated by the bodily conception of life, there is always the danger of being misled, whether one is a man or a woman. The soul is sometimes described as puruṣa because whether one is dressed as a man or a woman, one is inclined to enjoy this material world. One who has this spirit of enjoyment is described as puruṣa. Whether one is a man or a woman, he is not interested in serving others; everyone is interested in satisfying his or her own senses. Kṛṣṇa consciousness, however, provides first-class training for a man or a woman. A man should be trained to be a first-class devotee of Lord Kṛṣṇa, and a woman should be trained to be a very chaste follower of her husband. That will make the lives of both of them happy.

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Answer 4

This seems to be a classic problem that many people have noticed. When you are single and looking noone is interested, when you are attached you become a magnet.
I think it has to do with confidence. When you are single you tend to come off as desperate. Find an interesting hobby and when you least expect it the best person will pop up.

Answer 5

You cant. People change.