My best friend finally got a boyfriend, and I'm happy for her and everything, but I'm also very worried about her. She really likes him, I guess, and she tells me that he's really nice, but he is sort of what you might call a 'bad boy'. He smokes pot and cigarettes, does ecstasy and he drinks. He probably does other stuff, too, but I'm not sure. He's also two years older than my friend (he turns 17 February 20 and she turns 15 February 2) I already told her to be careful and everything, but I'm not sure she'll listen to me. We also live in different states, so it's pretty much impossible to know what she's doing. I really need help. I know it's her business, but I really don't want her to screw up her whole life just for some loser she met. Oh and, she's never done any of these things before, I might add, but she might start, you never know.
2007-01-18 11:28:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
wow that's really frustrating.
You sound like any one of us mothers of teenage daughters.
I think all you can do, is keep the lines of communication open, and keep being a good influence, she needs more people like you and less like this new bf! Good luck.
2007-01-18 11:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl! You're such a great friend! Talk to her seriously about the situation and make her understand that he might be a bad influence for her. Tell her that you care about her, and that it will be really sad that she turns into a "wasted" just because of this guy. There are many other fish out there in the sea, so propose her to go and hunt some of them. Good luck gal!! ;D
2007-01-18 11:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you can do is just advice her more and also her boy friend to think twice about what he is doing because I am quite sure he wouldn't want any guy to date or do any such thing to his sister. You can also ask your friend if this is the kind of guy she would want to spend the rest of her life with if she does end up with him.......just remember that teenagers will always be teenagers but they have to grow up and think of there futures before it's too late.....
>>>>you have a sweet heart for your friend, I do hope she realizes how much you care for her... good luck
>>>>my husband use to smoke and drink while we where friends, he stopped doing everything that he use to do when he found out that he truely loves me, and that I loved him too
2007-01-18 11:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "speak to him a bit of extra" is normally a particularly well concept. Try figuring out matters he likes; favourite bands, his events, matters like that. Loner varieties are often very into anything and consider that the majority persons would not care or respect the matters they're into. If it is anything you understand not anything approximately, even higher, ask him to train you approximately it. By this factor you'll clearly simply stroll as much as him at lunch and ask to understand a bit of extra approximately that one band or anything it's he is into and it may not even look awkward.
2016-09-07 22:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i stopped reading at the pot part okay it is ok to date a bad boy but not someone who does drugs and smokes and god knows what else first i would talk to your friend about this stuff then talk to her about what drugs can do to her boyfriend and that she is in a dangerous situtation then i would turn him in for use of drugs one it will teach him a lesson two it will show her that someone actually cares about her and doesn't want to see her get hurt and make mistakes well i wish you the best of luck
2007-01-18 11:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that a kid that is born with a guy like that will have brain damage and he wont want her he will beat her as he is a jerk already he is in denial. best thing she can do is get him to counsleing this is proof she cares. and for herself to have a support friend in her town to take her mind off of him as she cant cure him or treat him to be normal. ecstacy is no joke and if hes doing all that most likely hun he is havign unprotected sex with same type of girls so what if she gets aids or pregnant have her read this .. say no more as your a friend enough to ask for help as you do care and she shoudl care about her own self esteem not a guy whos what cute? he aint got o future so its down hill is this worth dying fro or going to pot for? nahhhhhhhhhhhh theres counseling out there.. for free as well .. rehab for him counseling for her to get self esteem ( when people want mind altering dope they are running away from reality somethign is bugging him and ifs he is just on a dare to try it hes alreayd addicted.. so he needs help .. she cant do it.. she has to save herself.
2007-01-18 11:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes the attention she found a guy that intrested in her and makes her feel special. you can let her know that you are there for her and tell her how you feel about everything and just let her know that you care about her. other than that all i have to say if her parents won't step then it is a life lesson she will have to learn even if that means learning it the hard way.
2007-01-18 11:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by lovely baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say, be there for her and try not to alienate yourself from her by downtalking him. There will probably come a time when she will need someone to talk to about his negative behavior, and you don't want her to feel like she has no one to turn to or that she has to hide it from you to "prove" that she knows what she's doing. She is hopefully just going through a phase and likely she is still too young to screw up her whole life.
2007-01-18 11:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bacnmia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read the second paragraph just by saying that he did drugs was enough...Try telling her that he is not a good guy to be with maybe he's just trying to use her for sexual relationships or something NOT GOOD AT ALL.If you care for your friend soo much...TELL HER
2007-01-18 11:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep talkin to her, to put some sense into her head, actually, let her do does stuff, watch her make her life miserable, she is gonna come cryin to u over da phone sayin she doesnt want to dis anymore, well just straight up tell her how u feel bout, if she doesnt listen let her mess up, when she come crying to u let her express her feeling to just listen dont tell her u told her so, dont say does line, just be kind nd just listen to her
2007-01-18 11:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by personaltiyqueen92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋