The friend I'm talking about is my best friends ex-girlfriend. We became friends while they were dating but didn't talk for a few months after they broke up. In that short amount of time she started dating a new guy who was abusive and controlling. He has basically alienated her from all of her friends and family. I email her about every month but she has only emailed me back a few times. The few times that I have talked to her when he isn't around, she seems like her old cheerful sweet friendly self. If he's with her she just completely ignores me. She sends me mixed signals. It seems like sometimes she wants to be friends and sometimes she doesn't. Since she doesn't email me back often, should I just stop emailing her? Is her silence a way of her saying "leave me alone"? Note: I just want to be her friend and be there for her...its not like I'm trying to date her or anything, heck I have a great girlfriend of my own.
2007-01-18 10:56:17 · 7 answers · asked by Link 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey, listen, you're awesome for seeing what's going on and trying. On the one hand, it's kind of appropriate to keep some kind of disctance from you as the BF's ex and all...
but she's going to need friends when she comes out of it.
IF you can handle not taking this too personally, then go ahead, put yourself on the line once a month.
Worst that happens is, you can pat yourself on the back for being a caring person.
Best that happens is, she comes around. If she's in need of support in getting out of a bad spot, hopefully you can hold off from the NECESSARY guilt trip until she's in the clear.
Most people would tell you to back off.
If you need to, hey, that's what you need to do. But if you can handle it, be that one shining example of the Golden Rule.
2007-01-18 11:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r such a nice friend man...i wish i could have more friends like you...okay here is how it is...i think you should stop emialing her...I had a friend and I always emialed him and he never emialed back then he emialed after a while and said I just wanted to make you stop and you did so yeah…I was like dang u r such a bad friend but yeah…if she has a controlling boyfriend then I guess that when u emial her you are putting her more in danger of getting a beaten or something...
hey good luck and well you deserve better friendships keep being nice too
2007-01-18 11:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by dudette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her new boyfriend must be around and shes scared of him and his attitude when she does try to interact with friends and she needs to get out of that relationship the best way she knows how and she probally deletes your messages to keep him from reading them and he might even know her E-mail address and password its hard to say for sure.
2007-01-18 11:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by dugbug63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, she can handle her affirs better than u can,
u're having a problum of letting go, respect u're girlfriend & u're self
take u're life 2 the next level an move on man.
lots of people screw up their life by looking back
thats not good.
2015-09-21 13:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop emailing her, if he is a control freak then HE wont like it... try and get to talk to her. tell her that you have noticed a change in her and that if she needs you that you will always be there for her if she ever needs you.
2007-01-18 11:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by as 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me once. maybe she just changed her email address. sometimes people should look on the positive side. if you know what i mean. try calling her and if she sounds annoyed then leave it at that.
2007-01-18 11:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by roxy_92_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUuUuuuPpPp............ U should dEff.. keep in touch with your friend even though she might not be able to wright back for what ever reason... she'll know that your there for her no matter what... dont trip she'll come around!!!!! * * *
2007-01-18 11:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by L@dy~E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋