Well my freind seems to be mad at me because I talked about her car because she said that I always need rides from her and thats the only way i get out the house is if she comes and gets me and takes me to my destination. okay so We were in front of a whole bunch of people so being the person I am I had to say something back. also the whole time we were arguing it was a joke and we play argue all the time so i wonder why this time she took it serious. she told me i wasnt going to get a ride from her but i really needed a ride because it's winter and I don't want to get frost bite on my hands lol. but I told her no and we sat in her car for about 30 mins in the parking lot arguing about that situation. so she took it upon herself to say "well ur always talking about someone's car and always the first one in." and from there I had just had enough and got out the car and walked off.If has been 6 days since we talked. So i a just wondering how would I got about apologizing?Or shouldn't I?
2007-01-18 10:39:07 · 26 answers · asked by takeiya p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Say "I am really sorry, please forgive me"
2007-01-18 10:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by FordGT guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every argument has two people at fault for something. Both of you embarrassed each other in front of others. If she is a valuable friend it is important to apologize for your part of the fight. Obviously you hit some kind of nerve with her. I would tell her how important of a friend she is and apologize for upsetting her. Make sure you give the apology freely expecting nothing in return. If she thinks you are apologizing just so you can get a ride, then she will not accept it as sincere. Another thing to consider is that even if you to patch things up she still may not give you rides. If you are apologizing just to get a ride then maybe you don't have a friendship but a dependency.
Good Luck
2007-01-18 10:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes honey, in public she was embarassed, for she might even think those things about her car in her heart. You could not know that, but that could even be the case among others I will mention. So yes, you should let her know in private that it was a joke, and you will remember to not joke like that in public with her anymore. That you did not know it would hurt her, or you'd have not done it.
That you really DO appreciate the rides, and when you get a vehicle you will always be there for her too. Not because you owe her, but because you love her as a friend as well. Also let her know that you realize how much love she must have for you, in order to take time out of her days, and or, nights to give you a ride. That you don't want a friendship so wonderful to be destroyed over your joke. Let her know that she has been there for you, and you don't take that lightly. Though your joke may have implied so. That you spoke before you thought of how your joke might sound to her and others arouns you guys.
When in private, friends can say a lot of nutball and sometimes ruder seeming jokes. They understand it is not as embarrasing as in a public setting, where you never know what the others thought about her already. Some of those people you joked in front of may have already said something rude about her or her car, and your joke might have made her hurt worse. She may also have been told by those people to not help you, that you are taking advantage of her, and your joke only made her think twice about what she'd been told by others. You never really know. This is WHY you must talk it out, and try to do so by taking her out to lunch or inviting her over for a nice meal. Talk after the meal, this way she is not so nervous, and will see you are trying hard to rekindle the friendship.
NO ... don't buy her any gifts, that only makes it look like you are trying to BUY her friendship. IMHO
Tell her you are sorry and talk it out. For a true friend sticketh closer than a brother. She has done that for you, so be a good friend and say you are sorry sweetie.
Blessings & Peace,
Jewel
2007-01-18 10:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jewel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I would say do apologize if this friend means enough to you to do that.
Ask yourself, "would I be offended if someone said what I said to her to me?" Not a friend saying what you said, but a generic person, saying what you said to her to you.
When apologizing, if she doesn't accept your apology right away, you can ask "why are you so upset over this?" all the while making sure she knows you meant no harm by what you said.
The best advice in delivering an apology is don't expect it to go perfectly. Always keep your cool, even if it means taking someone being rude to you and shrugging it off.
Just give your friend a call and sound very humble when you talk to her. Don't sound like the boss, sound like the person that is truly sorry.
That's my two cents. I hope it all works out for you!
2007-01-18 10:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by CelestialWarrior 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, apologize. Your friend really does need to learn not to be so thin skinned. Then on the other hand maybe she was in a bad mood. Call her or whatever you do to communicate with her, let her know that you are sorry and met nothing by it and that it was just a joke. In the near future, watch what you say to her.
2007-01-18 10:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell your friend that is was just a joke as it always was.then tell her you are sorry but not because you need the ride its because you do not like being without her as a friend. if she does not understand she is probably got somethin else on her mind when this occured and she cant get passed it .but sounds like its worth a try to talk to her anyway .pray for the best .but on the other hand if you just want the ride leave her alone cause you do not deserve her friendship anyway.
2007-01-18 10:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by vistaali 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your friend and say, "I sincerely apologize. I didn't mean to insult you or make you the butt of a joke. I thought you'd find it funny too, but I see you didn't and I'm sorry. I've missed our friendship more than I have the rides you give me. I've learned that a friend never should make a friend uncomfortable. Forgive me."
Be the bigger person here. You'll feel better and so will she.
2007-01-18 10:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologize because you shouldnt have done that she gives you car ride and you argue in her car that dosent feel nice.I think you should write a letter and a card of colour she likes.Make her feel specil in the letter and say sorry and you would not do it again.I understand how it feels it will take time.You need to improve by making compliment about things she likes and she will give you same respect you need.
2007-01-18 10:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by goodgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like one of those silly things which just went too far. I would indeed apologize to your friend, admitting you just got carried away in the conversation. Eat a little crow. Crow is better than not having your friend, car or not.
Would you rather be right or happy?
2007-01-18 10:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by MARCY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend and you care that you hurt her feelings, then apologize. If you don't care, then don't. What the arguement was about doesn't matter at this point.
For future reference though, if you depend on someone's ride to get you around, might be a good idea to refrain from callin it a hoopty or talkin smack about it.
2007-01-18 10:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that u APPRECIATE her giving u ride all the time and u don't want to ruin ur friendship over sum stupid argument and apologize to her
2007-01-18 10:43:17 · answer #11 · answered by Legant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋