...I cheated on him cause I destroyed all the evidence?
2007-01-18 10:38:56 · 44 answers · asked by Kris_stew29 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Abortion is NOT a form of birth control!! You shouldn't have cheated and if you really want to have a relationship with this person you HAVE to be honest AND you need to face the consequences of your actions! If you don't want the baby, place it up for adoption.
2007-01-18 10:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by lover_of_paints_&_quarter_horses 4 · 7⤊ 5⤋
Destroyed the evidence? U are talking about a baby here,your unborn baby...Who cares if he finds out,does that really mean kill your baby to hide that u cheated? U need to be more of an adult here..I know people are going to give me thubs down here but for what? because im telling this girl that its wrong she aborts her baby because she cheated? Everyone on here talks about its a girls choice because they were raped,abused,something wrong with baby..not in this case,in this case what u are doing is wrong...There are other options such as adoption. If u wanna abort your baby go away but u will live with this for the rest of your life,and ill tell u what,ur boyfriend will find out eventually,they always do.U should have been faithful. Abortions make u at a higher risk of not being able to have children or having miscarriages and such..i know from friends who regret abortions...think long and hard before u make such a cruel decision,.
'
2007-01-18 10:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on your boyfriend is one inmoral act (IMO), but taking the life of an unborn child who is a victim of this horrible circumstance would be a terrible travesty.
Abortion is not a form of birth control. Why didn't you use protection when you were cheating? Did you not think you could possibly get pregnant?
To give you some real solid advice, consider this. Carry the baby till term. Have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are some really wonderful couples out there who would love to adopt your baby. At least give your baby life.
How do you even know that this baby is for your boyfriend, since you just said you cheated on him? Couldn't the baby be for the cheating man?
You have alot to think about, but I don't think abortion is your answer. You will regret that decision the rest of your life. I would also recommend counseling at a pregnancy crisis center.
Good luck and hope this helps.
2007-01-18 10:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. You don't have to tell him.
I am going to tell you though that abortion hurts women. Abortion will hurt you. It will hurt your child. You don't just forget about something like this. Every time you see a child. Every time someone says abortion. When you get pregnant again. If you get breast cancer later.
You are scared and people make bad choices, but you don't have to. You have an opportunity to do the bravest decision in the world and that is to bring this child into the world. Take a deep breath, pull yourself together and do the right thing. I may seem like the hard thing but in the end will will not scar you for life.
And if you make the decision to have this baby, then you have the decision to keep or give it up for adoption. I would encourage that you look at your adoption. Don't just think I can't do it. Get information, seek consultation, talk with people who were adopted, talk to those who gave their babies up and make a informed decision, (not just the first impulse) and chose the decision that is right for you.
2007-01-18 11:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, never tell about cheating.....it helps no one. Abortions come back to haunt you the rest of your life....it is not the easy fix it seems.....but it is the answer for some people. What if you have the baby and give it up for adoption?? Your boyfriend will show his true colors if he thinks you have his baby...he probably won't stay around long enough to see....but if you're not ready for a baby don't keep it...there are a lot of families who want one.
2007-01-18 10:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by eubysgirl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You really don't deserve him anymore. I don't like cheaters at all, especially ones who want to be the victim. THink about this, what if something goes wrong with the abortion, I'm sure he'll find out then. Or what if the other guy decides to tell him? You never know if he's on this site watching what you say.
2007-01-18 10:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find people like you pathetic, you are Irresponsible and cheat and then end up pregnant and in order to live a lie by not telling your boyfriend you cheated you murder the innocent baby.
f you cared about your boyfriend you would have never of cheated, he has a right to knwo you cheated on him and if I were him I would dump you because of how pathetic and selfish you are. You want to kill a baby all because your irresponsible and unfaithful.
Do yourself a favor and don't have sex until your more responsible and mature, youll just keep killing baby after baby because of how dumb you are
2007-01-18 11:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Laws vary by state, and also by age of the mother/father.
As a general rule, the father of the child doesn't have to be notified of an impending abortion.
Whatever you decide, make the choice yourself. Don't look for answers here. Talk to someone at the clinic/office where you are planning to have the procedure done. Seriously think about what you are doing.
Regardless of your religous or political beliefs, you have to live with your decision, whatever it is. Worrying about your b/f finding out you cheated is small potatoes compared to that.
2007-01-18 10:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Garylian 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's your body and up to you, but if you are in a relationship that you value, firslty you wouldn't cheat, then secondly if you really sutffed up and cheated I think you should be honest and tell him the truth, if he really loves you he will stay and try to work things out, and figure out why you cheated, perhaps you were missing somethign at home that you needed.
If you choose not to tell him, I think you should break up with him, because it is obvious firslty you dont respect him for cheating, then cheating and not using a condom and putting your partner at risks on catching a STD or worse and getting pregnant to another man... it is kind of unforgivable. Sorry to be rude. But if you want to go window shopping with other guys you should really dump the one you already have
2007-01-18 10:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by jazyj 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
C U Next Tuesday
I believe a woman has a right to choose, but abortion should not be used as a contraceptive. Just know whatever you do that it'll catch back up with you and you will have to answer for it. You don't have to tell you boyfriend that another dick was inside you and as a result a coat hanger had to make it "all better." You have to live with it though. You can be reminded of it every time you look in the trash can.
2007-01-18 10:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by Renegade Rhianna 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
dont fully understand your question, but if you want an abortion you do not have to tell the father - however, this is a life long decision and one that shouldnt be taken likely as you may regret it in the long term.
talk about it with someone you trust and see if there is anyway you can resolve this - i'm assuming you are a teenager so try talking to your parents / a friend / teacher etc..
2007-01-18 10:43:01 · answer #11 · answered by schmushe 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋