He has got custody of his kid from a previous relationship, but he has warrants and smokes weed. I have a clean record. What should I do?
2007-01-18 10:22:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Don't worry about it. If he has nothing to do with the child or you that works out. Just don't put his name on the birth certificate and refuse to give it. If he tries to get any custody, the judge should acknowledge the warrants and declare sole custody towards you. Also, if you have any evidence that he smokes, that could work also. Suggest a drug test. If you have a clean record, you are fine. Almost the same thing happened to my mom and that's what she did. Good luck.
2007-01-18 10:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by V.V.C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st get a laywer and if you cannot afford one go to legal aide. Secondly if he has warrants and smokes weed, you can use that against him also. Also he needs to be able to prove beyond a reasonable doubt you are an unfit mother, which is a very hard thing to do. After the baby is born you can go to family court and request sole and legal custody of the baby. Which is what I did. My son's father left when I was 4 months pregnant and I did not see him aound again till my son was a month old. Good luck. I would not worry though, sounds like the guy is a real loser.
2007-01-18 19:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by snowball24life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, DO NOT put him on the birth certificate. This will automatically give him rights. He can contest this later, but he will have to file a court order and pay for a DNA test. With his record, he probably cannot get custody unless he can prove you are an unfit mother. Just stay out of trouble and everything will be fine. If he ever takes you to court for custody, make sure your attorney digs into his background.
2007-01-18 18:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he can, unless he has committed some type of Domestic Violence toward you. Do not hire an Attorney, because he will get Joint Legal Custody anyway! If you are still on good terms, go to Mediation First!!! You're going to save thousands!!! Seek Physical Custody, allow Joint Legal Custody, and establish visitation. The District Attorney's Office will seek and establish Child Support on their own and WILL COLLECT...but more importantly, if it's at all possible, stay amicable. Your Child is going to need both of you...Cheers!
2007-01-18 18:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by I'm daddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get an amazing lawyer, & keep concrete evidence of anything he does wrong. Phone messages, notes that he writes, be careful of what you do, drinking after the baby is born, boyfriends, friends...I had a friend who wasn't the best mom, but not a bad person. She was in a custody battle w/ her ex, & he won. She found out that he is molesting the daughter (he would do it right before the girl went to her mom's, just to hurt the mom) & when they went back to court he won again. He & his laywer was brutal & unfair & lied in court. The little girl wouldn't tell the cops, & they will not take anyone else's word.
Good Luck
2007-01-18 18:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If Keven Federline has a shot at getting custody of his sons, anything is possible. Consult a family laywer and ask him/her which is more advantageous: not putting him on the birth certificate or drawing up legal documents to ask him to legally sign over his rights to this child. My guess is this loser probably doesn't want the responsibility anyway, so you might as well strike while the iron is hot. Does he even know you're pregnant with his kid?
2007-01-18 19:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by scouseryank33 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can legally petition for visitation rights, and since he has warrants those visits will probably have to be supervised. the fact that he smokes weed doesn't help his case for responsibility either. If he pays child support he will definitely have the legal system behind his efforts to have visitation or possibly joint custody. It's up to you to gather evidence and prove to family court why he is not fit to be in your childs life. Remember the burden of proof lays on you and your evidence.
2007-01-18 18:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say you don't know where the father is when you give birth so you do not put down his name. You can put down anyone's name. If he wants he can contest it later but that will make it harder. With his record and if you have proof of it, it will be hard for him to get custody. Get plenty of support from your family and make sure you have good living arrangments.Thats what they look out for.
2007-01-18 18:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can not recieve custody of your child unless you are an unfit parent. You have to be able to provide shelter for your baby and food as well. With him having warrents and doing drugs he shouldn't have his other child. He can not take any responsibilties if you don't put his name on the birth certificate.
2007-01-18 18:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Christy P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that more than ten hours a week of separation from mommy is very damaging to infants and toddlers? Please consider putting your baby up for adoption so that he/she can have a normal life with two parents who are squared away, checked out on life, and have the time to raise a child, rather than having it raised in day care. What a sad sad life you're setting your child up for.
A major study in sweden found that kids of single moms are significantly more depressed in adulthood than kids raised with two parents. IT's not fair to do to a child. Give the baby up to someone who is ready. Get your head together, make a real life for yourself, and then go on. Get married, know the guy is decent and reliable, and then breed.
2007-01-18 19:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋