I has a one night stand in october, really liked the guy but clean forgot i had given him my cell phone number. As i knew he has a russian girlfriend that he was meeting for the first time the following week. He contacted me out of the blue about 5 weeks ago by txt. We have spent loads of time together since in fact hardly been apart. I haven't slept with him since meeting up with him again even tho he has tried time and time again when he is drunk. The reason i wont sleep with him is he constantly tells me how much he loves his g/f even tho they have only ever spent 10 days together and it always seems that he rings her in russia not the other way round. Im really confused as he tells me he loves me as his best friend and when we are together or he is drunk he is always telling how lovely i am. Im at a crossroads as i feel that the best thing i can do is break all contact with him before i get hurt. What do you guys think?
2007-01-18 10:19:11 · 15 answers · asked by h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please run away from this situation...it seems as though he is using you because his girl isnt there let him go!!!!
2007-01-18 10:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Im a Survivor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just how much of the time is this guy drunk or drinking? That alone should be enough of a warning...He found a Russian Bride? Those women will say and do anything to get the h*** out of Russia. I think that you already know the answer... You deserve better. Get far away from him. If he can't figure out to dump the fiancee, whom he doesn't really know and be sober when he tells you how he feels, then he doesn't deserve you.
2007-01-18 11:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to 'break all contact with him' because he's 'used you' for sex once, and that's really all he wants from you now. And you need to try to 'look elsewhere' than a 'bar' or place where people drink alcohol for someone ... 'alcohol' DIMINISHES your capacity to 'see and understand' just about EVERYTHING, and when you are talking about 'forming a lasting relationship' you both really need to be SOBER, and have had mostly SOBER experiences together. If this seems 'too hard' then you may need to go to a few A.A. meetings and get some help before you really are ready for 'a relationship'.
2007-01-18 10:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch - someone is going to get hurt here and it is probably going to be you.
I hate to be cynical but he has a girlfriend, he is lonely as she is not in the country and he is trying to get in your knickers!
Personally I would break off contact. You deserve better.
2007-01-18 10:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what to do, sad to say this but your friend sounds like he is confused, and as long as he is confused he Willl look for the easy way out, and guess what Your it!
It would be nice to be his friend and hang out with him, but as soon as his guard goes down he wil try it on with you, ask yourself is it worth it? I think you need to find someone who is free to explore a committed relationship with you.
2007-01-18 11:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by bty912324 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really is taking the piss - he wants his cake doesn't he. I think you need to salvage your self-respect and tell him you don't want to see him anymore. You deserve to have a man who loves you and you alone. I couldn't feel anything but resentful towards a man who kept telling me how much he loved someone else whilst trying to get into my pants. I don't care how much you like him - he is a creep and a loser.
2007-01-18 10:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is using you as second best just because you are handy where as Russia is far away. but only you know for sure how you feel about this, looks like you answered your own question when you asked it
2007-01-18 10:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this guy is taking u for a ride,the best thing to do is get as far away from his as possible,if he felt anything for you he would'nt put you through this.
2007-01-18 22:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by DEBORAH M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun, i would get away from all that before you get hurt. I think you know deep down that its for the best.
2007-01-18 10:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Leanne O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away its not worth the heartache plenty of men out there that will treat u better
2007-01-18 10:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by lizjess2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just using you.Break all contact with him
2007-01-18 10:24:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋