i have areal mother insticnt when people are hurting?

Question

including my kids but at the same time i can really lose my rag with kids i can be horrible sometimes and i hate myself for it. i luv my kids and they luv me but i cant seem to control my nasty mouth once its opened. i called them rats the other day

Answer 1

I think this is the norm for who you are or how you were raised.My mom was a yeller and when she'd lose her mind she'd say some pretty bad things and then try to make up for it later.I also have this problem but I tend to put mine in the corner and then yell into a pillow in a closet what a little brat she's being and continue to rant on it until it's out of my system.
My method works for me find a method that works and helps you if you can't then perhaps Anger Management Classes would help.They have several levels of Anger Management you can even look online for some of their methods to try...

Hope that helps and I hope it helps to know you aren't alone in the nasty mouth department.

Take Care,
M.G

Answer 2

That's not completely abnormal. I bet from time to time you feel a little frustrated and in the moment of being overwhelmed you resort to name calling instead of taking a deep breath and either walking away or giving true discipline. But the very thought that your children are picking up this words and adding to them vocabulary to use when they get upset should be enough to find another option. You're the adult and you should be setting an example of what you idealize your children to be not performing what the should be at their worst. Try setting rules and establishing a better routine so there is no deviation and time for riff raff. Most kids act out because they lack structure or need more attention. When you lose your cool be an example by explaining to them what you did was inappropriate and identify how you're feeling.

Answer 3

Anger control is not "second nature" to a lot of us. You may want to consider an anger management class or some type of parenting class. We all have a hard time controlling what we say when we are tired, frustrated, stressed and such. It is important to learn how to control this with your children because they will remember those moments for the rest of their lives. Children also learn from example, you probably learned it from your parents. Once the words are out there, you can't take them back. When you do slip, apologize for your words. It doesn't undo all the damage, but it does help.

Answer 4

Think of yourself as always on videotape
how would it play back
always try to take a breath and let it out slowly
sometimes thats all it takes
think that your Preacher or someone else important is there
would you blow then?
Be Blessed we are all only human and humans make mistakes

Answer 5

get a grip on yourself....kids will drive you nuts...

you think it gets easier as they grow up?

God gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth...means you should listen twice as much as you talk....4 year olds can figure out your " hot buttons "....and they go their when they need attention....

sounds like you are blessed with normal, healthy kids...

they might need some activity to burn off some of that energy

FIND SOME.....

Answer 6

it is hard to take back something once it is said im sure they know you do not mean it!!!!!!! i know how you feel all you cqan do when you get that angry is walk away till the feeling passes or go in another room and scream and cuss your head off sonetimes getting yelled aat is worse than getting hit

Answer 7

"I can loose my rag???"
Bloody mess !!!
You got kids >>> they know you got dirty mouth.
So what you barking here for ?
RATS how disgusting: ) :) OMG omg hahaha
That's so so so close to being vulgar...
Your causing me pain from laughing.