My parents have never really got along, and now they're getting a divorce. How can i cope with this?
2007-01-18 09:59:09 · 8 answers · asked by soccer love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my grnadmother made a big part in the reason, and my dad's side of family isn't nice to me and my mother and my mom's side is in brazil
2007-01-18 10:09:25 · update #1
Remember, it's not your fault. It's THEIR problem.
Don't take side and just love them.
2007-01-18 10:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dizney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Again, as almost everyone has said, it is NOT your fault.
Divorce is not easy on anyone, but any change is not easy. Some times divorce can be the best answer for everyone involved. Even if your parents get divorced you will always be their child and they will love you no matter what.
Seek help from your school/church counsellor. Talk to your parents. Keep talking and reading and you will be able to get through this.
Keep your chin up. Every cloud has a silver lining.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-18 18:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to know that it is not your fault. Second, realize that you will get through it. You are not going to loose either of your parents. They're not divorcing you, they just aren't inlove anymore and don't want to live together. Now you'll have two houses instead of one. See if there is a counselor at school to talk to, or ask your parents to go to a counselor with you. They need to know how their divorce is affecting you and how to make it as painless a transition as possible for all of you.
2007-01-18 18:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RIte now ur parents dont really hav time 4 u. But its not ur fault, so hang out with friends. Dont do drugs! Thats the worst answer!
What u should do is talk 2 ur friends about it. Ur girlfriend (if u hav 1) or a skool councilor. They always help. Talk 2 an aunt or ur grandma! Just talk. Dont do anything else. It isnt ur fault! Ur parents just want to get it over with so they can go back to lovin u!
2007-01-18 18:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by CurlsWithBrains 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some divorces are messier than others. Stay occupied with good things. If you get along with both parents, that's good. If not, live with and learn from the parent you share the bond with.
2007-01-18 18:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Know it's not your fault.
2. Talk to both of your parents and let them know how you feel about everything. Communication is key.
3. Talk to a counselor or therapist through school.
4. Talk and interact with your closest friends daily.
5. Volunteer or complete accomplishments to increase your self-esteem. (Trust me this always feels good after any bad event).
Good Luck! =)
2007-01-18 18:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by GoddessJeneffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure you know that this is NOT your fault. Second, continue to love them both. Spend time with both of them. It can be really cool because you get a lot of one-on-one with both your mom and your dad.
It will work out. You may even find you are happier this way than when they were together because they will be happier.
2007-01-18 18:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remeber that they will be happier apart then they were together.
2007-01-18 18:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋