My husband has premature-ejaculation problem if not wearing condoms because of a prostatitis condition. Everytime he ejaculates in one or two minutes and sometimes he even does not know he's ejaculated or not. He seems very upset about this. But I never show any unsatisfaction although I have not had any so-called orgasm since 7 years ago when we were married. But he's still looking at porn. I dont' understand why he would still turn to other nasty ugly whores on the internet in the meantime he is not able to sexually satisfy his own woman.
2007-01-18 09:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by dancingsnow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really think you need to sit down and talk to him about this. tell him how you feel about your unfullfilled sex life and his need to look at porn. if he seems to be upset about his problem why hasnt he looked into it?
there are clinics etc he can go to to help with the premature ejaculation.
is he so selfish that he doesn't care about your needs or feelings? he doesn't respect you and you need to tell him how much that hurts you.
you need to tell him how you feel and how this is hurting and affecting you and your relationship with him.
faking or just putting up with things as they are is not good for you and you shouldn't have to settle for that as a so called sex life.
talk to him. search for help with his problem and install something on the computer so he can't look at porn.
good luck, i hope things work out for you.
2007-01-18 10:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-21 09:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by Marianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-13 23:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-16 04:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a question in there? I agree, with his problem he should be looking at non-sexual stuff. Men are visual and become more aroused when watching porn. Looks like he doesn't need any help in that department. I have heard that watching porn can become addictive. Maybe your husband is addicted.
2007-01-18 10:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's turning to them precisely because he does NOT have to satisfy them. They are just images - they cannot see nor care if he ejaculates prematurely. Whereas you, his woman... I'm sure it's more damaging and upsetting to his ego when it occurs with you.
It's unfortunate and I really don't know what to say. Have you tried seeing a sex therapist? Or talking to him about his porn usage?
K.
2007-01-18 10:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ken K 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He needs mental help. But looking at or not looking at porn has nothing to do with his feelings towards you. And what is a so-called orgasm. If you ever actually have one you won't live without having them.
2007-01-18 10:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can bring yourself to go more then once, you'll give your GF the satisfaction she craves and you will last longer and longer each time you "go". The first time may only last 3-5 minutes, as you described above. But after a short rest, get back in there! This time it may take 10-15 minutes! And if you can do it a third time, it may last as long as 15-20 minutes. Wrap your head around wanting to please her and stop worrying about your pleasure, let her take care of that. You please her, she pleases you!
2016-03-29 03:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of your reaction, he is going to feel like a failure when he prematurally ejaculates. He feels he is not a good lover and in some ways less of a man, he feels ashamed and feels like he has failed you, like he is a dissapointment to you. Again, regardless of your reaction. He doesn't have to impress or satisfy the online hoochies. It is less stressful for him to look at smut then to risk embarrasing himself in front of you.
2007-01-18 10:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by tightlies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you know he has a physical problem, a c ock ring helps a lot with premature ejaculation. You should not put up with not being satisified anymore.
2007-01-18 10:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋