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Question

The time has come to explain the monthly friend to my daughte, however I dont know how to go abouts doing it...........can you tell me a simple way of doing it, I know there isnt any, but Im so nervous about it Im gettin sick over it. I dont want to explain sex to her yet, unless one question leads to another. How was some of the ways that you told your daughters?

Answer 1

Well it it really depends on your daughters age. About 12 or so you need to talk to her about " were do babys come from". She is getting into peer preashur at this point and she needs to be educatated about this. Unless you want a pregnate daughter. Say more then " Just don't do it." Tell her why.
About the period thing, don't get you self all stressed its not all that seriouse, it's acctualy something to enjoy. Looking back at when you became a woman. But here are some tips:
Because of improved hygiene and diet, the average girl starts her menstrual cycle when she's about 12 1/2 years old, versus age 16 1/2 more than a century ago, according to the experts at Always®. Your daughter's period should start anytime from the time she's 9 to 16 years old, and it's a good idea to gear up for discussing menstruation with her as soon as you sense she's ready. Even if she is a late starter, her peers may not be, and she may hear information (or misinformation) from her friends.

Getting Started

To get started, refresh your memory about what it was like to be your daughter's age. On Web sites such as Tampax® and Always, you'll find factual information, teen and preteen FAQ, and articles on the physical and emotional changes that take place during puberty. All of these can help get you closer in touch with your daughter's frame of mind, and prepare you for questions she may have.

If your daughter wants to do some exploring on her own, there are safe, credible and private online sources, such as Beinggirl, where she can get more information.

Opening Discussion

Choose a time to bring up the subject when the two of you are alone and not likely to be interrupted. Discussing such an intimate subject as your daughter's body and its changes can be awkward for both of you, but one good way to break the ice is to tell her you feel self-conscious, too — that admission alone can help both of you feel more comfortable.

If your daughter seems receptive, explaining specifically what her body is doing and why can take some of the mystery and fear out of the change. Always provides a clear and easy description to get you started. Let her know also that because she is unique and one of a kind, her body may work differently from her friends', so she shouldn't worry if her experience in getting her period is different from theirs.

Let Her Know What Products Are There for Her

Explain to your daughter what feminine protection products are available, and how they work. To get you started, here's a partial list of products that work well for adolescent girls:


Always Ultra Thin Pads


Always Maxi Pads


Always Pantiliners


Tampax Pearl


Tampax Compak

Because age and body size can affect your daughter's cycle, you may want to visit the Always Product Selector to find out which product will be right for her. You also can familiarize your daughter with hygiene products by requesting these free samples:


Sign up for periodic free samples for your daughter from Always and Tampax.


Request a free sample of the latest product from Always — Always Clean.


Request a free sample of the upgraded Tampax Pearl.

And to reassure her further, check out the Tampax Period Calendar to help her predict when her periods will start each month. Also, give her personal confidence — show her how to discreetly stow what she'll need if her period starts while she's at school, or out being her usual, active self.

Wrapping Up

Lastly, remember to listen with your ears and your heart. No one is more likely than you to be sensitive to your daughter's spoken concerns and unspoken cues. Handling this discussion sensitively can open the door for greater intimacy on a range of topics, and help you to be there for her as she goes through other important life changes.

Don't be afraid, it's okay relax.....Well I hope this helped :) Goodluck

Answer 2

I don't know if they still do it, but the OB tampon company used to send out a little kit with a booklet that explains everything having to do with that time of the month and some starter supplies to girls at that age upon their parents request. My mom did that for me and I was able to read about it then ask her any questions I still had. I plan to get some reading material for my daughter soon (she's 9) and remain open to any discussion she wants to have about the subject.

Answer 3

I don't have a daughter, but I remember an assembly in 3rd grade where they took all the girls in, and showed a video. The teachers even demonstrated a girdle that holds a pad in place. Too embarassing, tho funny.
Then in 6th grade there was a sex ed class. In Calif, that may not be mandatory anymore. Judge your daughters maturity yourself, and I know there are videos you can find to help you explain.

Good luck and kudos to you for taking care of your daughter's education in that area. More mothers should be proactive like you.

Answer 4

There's a time in a young girls life when you start to mature in more ways then one! You might start to grow hair odd places like under the arms and the southern region also along with these changes you might begin puburty and along with puburty comes with your friend called mentration and that occur once every 28 days and during this process of menstration blood is excreeted from the southern region and one egg is re-least!!!

I hope this helps!!!

Answer 5

I'm sure she has heard stories from her friends... so just approach the subject like that....
"I'm sure you've heard of having a period... is there anything you'd like to ask me about that?"

Be honest with her... let her know that you're nervous, and that it's okay for her to be nervous too. As the talk progresses let her know that if she ever has any questions about ANYTHING, that she should always come to you to ask, because her friends might not know what they're talking about. Be prepared to answer some surprising questions.

Answer 6

my mom had some pamphlets from the doctors office she had been saving for when i turned 10. that was not a happy birthday i got a purse a wallet and a big box of pads. plus those pamphlets they explained everything i was about to go through try the links provided

Answer 7

Just talk to her before it's too late. Just sit her down and lovingly tell her!

I found out on the playground at school - my best fried told me right before we had the "film." I didn't believe my friend. All my mother said when I got home was that she was going to tell me on my 11th birthday (in a couple of months). It really hurt that she didn't talk to me.

Answer 8

It would be easier and less embarrassing for both of you (this is what my mom did) if you bought her a book explaining all of of the "stuff" she needs to know. Give it to her and have her read it, and if you feel like it's necessary, quiz her on it afterwords.

Answer 9

my mom didnt have to talk to me. she just bought me the book my doctor recommended. it is called The Care And Keeping Of You (it is an american girl book)you can buy it at barnsandnoble, even walmart sells it, after your daughter reads and looks through the book if she has any questions tell her to feel free to ask you

Answer 10

i am sure she already knows some stuff on it. ask her what she knows and if she has any questions. and then fill in where ever she needs it. dont be upset about talking about sex with her the earlier you start the better