I really screwed up my marrage of 20 years to a really wonderful woman. now she wants a seperation but still live under the same roof. we both are being civil and taking care of things.
She dont want me to try and fix it or do anything but i really feel in my heart that i have to try and win her back again and hope that i can fix it. But i speak the most stupid things sometimgs that just dont make it better and im at wits end with myself.
Everythig that has happened is my fault not my wifes at all its all my fault.
so i know im grasping for straws but i gotta do something i dont wanna loose her what so ever and im gonna change and make a better person of myself
2007-01-18 09:44:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, think before you speak. if it helps, write out what you want to say, then sit her down and say it to her, using the notes you mde. if you screwed up, admit it. ask her what she wants to happen. you have to communiate. after 20 yers...also it depends on what you did to f up the relationship. sometimes some people just cant forgive somethings./
2007-01-18 09:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you may hurt but here goes... Just let her go... If she does not want the marriage or to work on it then give her the space she needs.... You may never win her back.... It is a good thing that she at least wants to live under the same roof with you... That is a start.... Try sleeping seperately for a while and just being a friend to her and a listening ear. I wish you the best..... Treat her with respect and kindness. I give you alot of credit for this and how you want to make it right with her... Wish all guys were like this:) Do all you can to change yourself to be a better husband and friend to her and focus on changing you and not her and love her where she is at.
http://www.marriagetoday.org
http://www.drphil.com
2007-01-18 18:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, It is never just one persons fault all in all. If you now see what a jerk you were, Maybe you could tell her. And don't go fast just gently ease into her life and back to her heart. If you do change and she still pays you no attention. She is not going to forgive.
2007-01-18 17:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by abby normal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to bring about change is communication...Be as honest as possible with her, and share emotions. People change over time, but that doesn't mean that you can't reconnect and make things even better.
Good luck!!
2007-01-18 17:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by sweetbrowneyedgirl64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really ask a question here....
Next.
2007-01-18 17:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋