i have been with a bloke for 10 months, i lived with him for 4 months while i was looking for a house. we went on holiday together,everything great then all of a sudden it was over ,i was not given a reason, we had not argued..that was 5 months ago anyway, he has never missed a day without textin me. we go out regualary, i stay at his house .he comes to my house and stays over we have good fun, got loads in common,when i go out with my friends he texts to ask where i am, who i'm with,and when we go out if i talk to another man i get comments about it the next time he texts me and yet he insists that we are just friends !!! i do not sleep with my friends ! i have told him how much i love him and that as far as im concerned, if it means it's got to be like this, i will carry on as we are,because as far as im concerned its better than nothing but i am paying a high price for being his friend, i want more, so do i walk away from a man i really truly love ? and are we just friends ?
2007-01-18 09:41:11 · 13 answers · asked by demmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's keeping dead bodies under the porch. Don't put the lotion on the skin.
2007-01-18 09:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's a little hard to explain. Friendship is also a kind of relationship. You want the best for the other person. Honesty. Sympathy and Empathy.Don't need to bother much of hurting each other or worrying what the other may think. Relationship is almost all that plus physical I guess. It also involves emotional attachment.You have to work to make a relationship happen. Take care not to hurt the other. I prefer friendship.
2016-05-24 04:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you love him or not he obviously doesn't love you. You've given him all the benefits of a relationship but he still insists you are only friends.
The major difference between friends and a relationship is a relationship implies commitment, responsibility and compromise. You were willing to give all these things and assumed he felt the same way because he seemingly reciprocated but you lacked communication. Now everything is clear and you're heart broken.
He likes the friendship perhaps because he likes to spend time with you, have sex and talk to you whenever he wants but he's not ready to be "tied" down. You could stick around and hope for the best but why? You gave him the best of you and he's either not ready to commit or doesn't think you're so absolutely wonderful he has to have you.
Move on and continue to date but use this as a learning experience. Actually be "real" friends with a guy for a significant period of time to reveal his characters so there are no regrets.
2007-01-18 09:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants the best of both worlds, but that is being very unfair when he knows how you feel about him, if you are just a friend to him why does he check up to see how your doing or where you are? also it sounds like he's jealous at times too ??, as one person has said it sounds like he may be afraid of commitment ???.
I understand you saying that this is better than nothing, but in the long run it'll just hurt you.
I think you can do one of two things !, enjoy what you have now and see how long it lasts, or give him an ultimatum and tell him you want more than just a part time lover and friend !!.
Good Luck :-)
2007-01-18 09:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Richard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him how you feel and he didn't reciprocate then I think you've had your answer, however, he could be scared of ruining the friendship just like you, talk to him and tell him how you really feel. I admit this is a big step and then there is no going back and I don't think things will ever be the same, but it's better than not knowing.
If he just wants to be friends than that's the way it has to be, you can't make someone have feelings for you. If he doesn't feel the same as you and your relationship continues to be one sided how sad are you going to be if/when he meets someone else?
2007-01-18 09:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is just too frightened to commit to a full on relationship, yet he wants all the trimmings. Give him an ultimatum. If he sees you as just a friend, then treat him like one. If he wants more, then he must commit to you. Don't be second best. You deserve more. You deserve truth also. It seems to me as though he has his cake and eats it. Stand up for yourself and tell him enough is enough. Once you have made the decision you will feel so much better about yourself.
2007-01-18 09:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want friends to pull other people and happy when they do.
You may think your mate is sexy and hot... But dont actually fancy them with feelings.
Ie all the boy in a group may think the tiomboy is sexy and would think holly **** check out so in so if posed for a magasine...
But she has boyfriend and the guys are cool about it.
Friends may hug but no more.
Friends dont snog, make out, feel each other up.
2007-01-18 13:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're more than friends definatly, but maybe he is just scared of a real commited relationship and would like to try to keep it in formal and not so commited by saying you're just friends.
talk with him about it and ask how he feels.
2007-01-18 09:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your circumstance is neither friendship, or relationship. It is indecision.
Its just a destructuve mess that you are fostering yourself and probably destroying those around you in the process.
2007-01-21 08:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds gay to me. But yes, you have to walk away. Real love is a two way thing. If its one way then its infactuation.
2007-01-22 09:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋