I always thought that attractive women were stuck up.?

Question

Because as i grew up all the women that were attractive were real snobs. I'm sure it has to do alot with where i grew up as it being a superficial, materialistic area. Since they were snobs i always thought, well good thing. Figuring it will make me find a women that has real substance and i myself won't place such a high importance on looks and learn to find inner beauty. Thing is now I’m in my mid 20's and have moved to another city. I’m around some women who are attractive but they are also intelligent, which is at odds with my past understanding of beautiful women…. I used to have limited choices in women which made me feel like i had a limited selection so things were simpler on me. Now I feel like there's to many choices, i feel overwhelmed by all the potential women i could date. How can I make myself not feel so overwhelmed by beauty, and now stick to what i always thought was important, inner beauty?

Answer 1

You have to consider that these women are wiser than the ones you knew in school. School revolves around cliques and peer pressure. When you get out of that environment you find those things don't matter as much. Also women grow into their looks -they are out of puberty and to boot they are gaining self-confidence which makes them attractive, too. So, in other words, date them all!

Answer 2

I have more of a comment than an answer per se.

I am far from a Paul Newman, but I have never had too much of a problem attracting women (at least the ones I wanted to attract), even though I never considered myself a handsome man.

But, I have found that the probabilities that a stunningly beautiful woman is interesting (to me) are "on average" inversely proportional to her level of beauty.

I am not saying that all beautiful women are not intelligent or interesting --- far from it. But it seems that a beautiful women can function reasonably well (at least for a while) in most societies without as much need to be interesting or informed or well-rounded. The world comes to her automatically. If the guidance to develop other attractions is not there from an early age (from parents, for example), it often does not develop because it does not have to.

That, of course, eventually comes to an end, normally at a time when it is too late to do anything about it. There is nothing more depressing than a beautiful (and often unhappy) "ornament" which is often the result.

Interestingly enough, when I was younger, I would deliberately seek out the second or third or fourth most attractive woman at a cocktail party since the odds were (with limited time) that I would find someone interesting and attractive at the same time.

I still think this is a good formula and am very lucky to be married to a woman who is beautiful, interesting and intelligent. She may not be the most beautiful woman at the party, but she is certainly the most attractive.

There is a lot to be said for "late bloomers" since they can end up with the best of both worlds. Both male and female.

Answer 3

You are too focused on a women's exterior.
Most of us are ugly ducklings.
From your comment that "all" the women were snobs, I think this is an internal problem where you are just labeling people.
I'm curious what the good looking men were like.

Answer 4

You have found a place on Earth where the women are both beautiful, and smart, too? Tell me, stranger, whereabouts is this magical place? Can anybody go there?

Answer 5

i'm pretty cute,and totally NOT a snob.Theres more to life than just material things.Maybe you should learn that. AND,we females are all different, not every female is a snob

Answer 6

Dude way too much thought just find a person and stop all the prejudging, and get to know them.

Answer 7

Meet with and make friends with(even superficially) as many women as you can. eventually you will relearn.

Answer 8

You sound so gay. Maybe you should be checking out the guys in your area.

Answer 9

I'm attractive and i'm not stuck up. It just depends on the person...