I am 19 weeks pregnant with bad 24/7 sickness. When we do have sex it hurts me. And I am never really in the mood. Anything I can do? He doesn't complain but I want him to be happy! We havnt done anything sexual for the past month! I know pretty bad, but I want to. Any ideas on how I can get in the mood, and what we can do other than sex? Or just any tips on what you did ?
2007-01-18 09:35:37 · 13 answers · asked by wondering 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can tell you from going thru this with my wife 3 x ( all girls) that there some things that you could do to help yourself out. First you want to reduce your nausea. Speak to your doctor about different methods of reducing areas of your diet that are affecting you. It is no fun to do anything if you feel sick all of the time. You will find that hot baths and doing little things to ease your body tension will help with not only upset stomach but with your own mood. Obviously if intercourse is painful right now, you want to try to avoid it. I would suggest finding a method that would please both of you. As woman know and guys have to figure out. Most women have their orgasm with stimulating the clitoris. I would masturbate one another, go down on him. Make it something that you can look forward to. 1 x week or something. As the father you still have sexual needs and obviously you want for him to be happy. As long as you are giving him some attention in that department he will be happy.Also ask your doctor about the amount of prenatal vitamins you are taking, your general diet and your daily routine. I am sorry to hear you feel sick all the time. That is the worst. I can tell you that I helped my wife get in the mood with massage, feet rubs, music, bring home flowers. I did not let the romance tapper off even if she could no longer do a weekly all night session. These days 2 hours once a week with 3 kids is like getting the planets to align. You will find with children that things will be different. After the baby comes you will have to refrain from intercourse as well. The good thing is this time in your life will pass quickly and you want to enjoy it. I know for me as a guy. Any type of sexual activity makes me happy. You will find he is likely the same way. More importantly what will please you sexually that he can do for you too. Don't forget about yourself. Let him know that intercourse is not feeling good at the moment. You may need more stimulation. When our first child came we made a point to use KY Jelly to combat the dryness that just happens sometimes. Hopefully that will help you out. Remember, he is exciting about being a dad and he will understand if things are different. He loves you! Take care of yourself. Congratulations.
2007-01-18 10:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mario L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A good ol' BJ should do. You don't even have to be in the mood, just do it. There will be times in your life when sex is the last thing on your mind, you both just have to accept it - relax and get ready for the baby.
2007-01-18 17:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is he going to do after the baby is born and he's not supposed to have sex with you for a few weeks?
He's a grown-up and this is what happens when the TWO of you have a baby.
He won't die....
2007-01-18 17:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop stressing over your husband's sex drive...just allow yourself to be pregnant and let him take care of you...the more stress you have on your body and mind is also on the fetus..just relax...
2007-01-18 17:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put on some porn and give him a hand job. Tell him you will make it up to him after the baby is born.
2007-01-18 17:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you care should get you through.Make sure he knows you will be better after the baby is born.Good Luck.And you know the other ways.
2007-01-18 17:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are feeling something quite normal some men get well horny during this time. see you fat and preg. tel lhim to take cold showers. you are no mood. educate him by going to this sited and looking for pregancy and sex www.medlineplus.gov
2007-01-18 17:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by ccc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he doesn't complain then why are you making it worse by trying to make it better for him. thank you lucky stars. he is being patient with you until your body gets back to normal (after birth) again. don't make it worse for you cause that will make him feel worse.
2007-01-18 19:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lend him a helping hand if you know what I mean
2007-01-18 17:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him a girlfriend for the time that you are pregnant. Only allow them to have sex if you are there and watching. You can run the video camera.
Your mom or your sister is perfect. That way, after you have the baby, they will leave and you and your husband can go at it again.
2007-01-18 17:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋