a new phone (the he doesn't need) and told you that he only spent $200? I found out by looking at the bank statement. Is he an idiot or what? Did he think I would never see it?
What should I do now? Beat him with a frying pan??
2007-01-18 09:34:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Beat him with his new phone!
2007-01-18 09:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it a cell phone? A home phone? If it's a cell phone, RED FLAG. Especially if you don't have the number; that can mean the beginning of some stupid behavior on his part. If you have his number--and there are no trust issues--it's probably a case of "male childitis"; the older the boy, the more expensive the toy (there IS a reason Playstation3 sold out!). Most importantly, you need to open the lines of dialogue; if he feels he needs to lie to you about something this small, you really need to talk. In a loving way, let him know of your concerns (spending too much money, not being honest with you). He needs to know that you won't nag or scream. You need to let him know that lying to you kills your sense of security in the relationship. And most importantly, let him know that if you didn't love him, you wouldn't say anything at all. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-18 19:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is sit down with him and go over some of the attitudes the two of you have about finances and impulse buys and saving for the future and debt. As non-judgementally as possible.
It's obvious your husband doesn't feel he can talk to you about things he buys. Ergo the lie. If he feels like he's going to get his ears torn off every time he tries to talk to you about something he wants to buy, of course he's going to deceive/lie! That's not to condone his actions. Of course he's wrong to deceive you.
More marriages are busted up over money issues than anything else. I think you need to put the frying pan away and talk to your husband-- and LISTEN to your husband-- about the family finances. And maybe get some impartial third party to mediate any disagreements.
2007-01-18 17:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he told you that he only spent 200 when he spent more, well i think he might be scared to tell you. He might be afraid to tell you and for you to get upset. Let him enjoy his little new toy. It is important to tell the truth, talk to him about it. Let him know your not mad, but to please tell you the truth. It is important to have a open line of communication.
2007-01-18 18:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has a $400-$500 phone... Big deal. I don't get into his business, he spends a lot of money on his hobbies (computers, home theatre, electronics), and it's fine with me. He's worked long and hard to get where he's at now, and I appreciate being with a man who can manage his finances well. Unless your husband is financially irresponsible, it's not necessary for you to watch every penny he spends. Back off and enjoy your marriage.
2007-01-18 17:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Inquire about it if you are curious, but let him have his phone. There may be something frivolous you want someday and you wouldn't want him to give you grief about it. Maybe he is getting a rebate for $70.
2007-01-18 18:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. if you don't have a job. get one. you need to have your own source of income. if you do have your own source of income then you need to have a bank account that is in your name only. if he spends what he makes on what he wants and you spend what you make on what you want then there should be no problems. cause you are not telling him what to do with his money and then he would not be telling you what to do with yours.
2007-01-18 19:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd confront him and ask why he lied to you about how much he spent. Who knows what else he might be lying to you about. Think about it!!!
2007-01-18 17:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I was mad when my wife spent $1,200 on clothes and didn't tell me.
2007-01-18 17:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself: Is $70 worth a fight?
2007-01-18 17:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋