My husband WILL NOT take me out!?

Question

I know it's an age old concept, "you never take me out anymore" but, my husband has no compassion for the fact that I am stuck here with our little baby everyday, and need to get out and talk to grown up people. Why doesn't he want to get out too? what makes someone so anti-social? Also, he will, and does socialize without me, and leaves me here, but finds no motivation to think of things we can do. He says there's no money for the bar, but we have a babysitter at any time for when we'd like to get out. what to do????

Answer 1

you have a few options here...

have him stayhome with the baby and you go out with your friends.

Get a sitter and TAKE HIM SOMEWHERE, it doesnt have to be him taking you out, if he cant make a decision you make it for him!!

Get a sitter and go out with your friends while he goes out and does whatever it is he does.

Good Luck!!

Answer 2

I have four children. I worked and she stayed at home. Got divorced many years ago and had the children. No big deal. The kids were from 5 thru 11 years old. I didn't have them when they were small. My daughter had her husband take a walk when her daughter was born. She lives 2000 miles away so I was no help. I didn't realize how damn hard a mother has to work with an infant. I had her call me whenever she had problems. I didn't want to call her so she could get some sleep without being disturbed. She was up about 20 hours a day for more than three months. Nursing, changing,etc.. You know. I must admit I have a lot more respect for my ex. I had know idea how hard it must have been..I never did a damn thing...I don't know how you can impress upon your husband just how much you could use a break. Men are pretty stupid. Maybe he might get some idea if he reads this. I don't really know what to say except that you need a break...Maybe you can surprise him with a day with the baby. You can go out with your girl friends for a day....I wish you all the best...Buzz

Answer 3

Surprise his butt one day by leaving the baby at the babysitter before he gets home. Make sure you are already dressed and show him the side of you he seen when you first got together. Stand firm and tell him you ready to go. It doesnt always take money for quiet time together. If he dont move go enjoy yourself and he will get tired of seeing you look sexy for other people. Stay blessed!

Answer 4

Sounds like your husband isn't taking you seriously. You have to him see you mean business. Tell your husband straight out that you want to go out. But don't stop there. Tell him where you want to go, when, and what your expectations for the evening will be once you get there.
It's clear that your husband like most men is clueless. You have to tell him what you want and lean on him to get it or you can just forget about it, honey.
It is common for some married couple not to date or go out after they get married. It is some what common. Especially if you've got a house, a couple of kids and a dog. Things kind of tend to get hectic with daily life and sometimes couple can't find the time or the money to go out and just enjoy each others company like they used to. You need to take your husband back to a time before the baby. If he absolutely refuses to take you out after all your efforts. Get a girlfriend to go with you. Leave him at home and give him the play by play later. let him know that you are going to have some grown up fun with or without him. Trust me. He will want to be included.

Answer 5

No money for the bar...come on....hello, there is always walking in the park. That is free where I come from. And if he doesn't want to go, leave his lazy tail at home with the baby. Get u some girl friends & do things with them. My friends & I used to go out everyother weekend & just spend time together without our anti-social hubbies. Nothing wrong it that, we needed adult talk too.

Answer 6

hun u go out with out him.. i know that sounds lame and what ur wanting is to be with him, but if u want to be happy and u want him to change.. u have to do things in ways that make zero sense..

Go find a class of some sort, go get a pass to the gym , go do something anything that requires u leaving the house.. eventually he'll get sick of being alone, and also curious because well ur getting all dressed up to go somewhere and not begging him to go with u.. u'll become the independent woman he was attracted to, and curiousity will kill the cat.. no one likes to feel ignored, or neglected.. and as long as your on the begging end he's just not going to get it.. so flip the switch and make him become the one begging for attention..

Answer 7

Well it sounds like your perception of your situation may need adjusting.
Your words were...'I am stuck here with our little baby everyday'.
Perhaps it is you thinking you are stuck which is your problem.
There are many women trying to get with child and they would not think themselves 'stuck'
Sure maybe a night out would do you good but I really think you need to take time to count the blessings you do have.

Answer 8

Ask him why but ask nicely. It may be because of the pressures of the baby. Remember you reap what you sow, so be nice to him and not just think of yourself. New family can be a lot of pressure and people handle it different.
One idea get all doll'd up and surprise him and take him out make all the arrangements and see what happens. If you don't get a good responce you and him may need to see family counseling.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Why not organise a BBQ or Picnic with friends, BYO drinks and everyone bring a salad/meat etc.... Might be a good way to get him socialising to start with - at little cost. You will get to mingle with adults and perhaps make other contacts. Or try a womens night out with your friends, I know its not going out with him, but if he doesnt want to take you out you have gotta do something with yourself!!!

Answer 10

First of all, he should take you out.
He knows that you take care of home and the kids all the time. If he
can spend time and money socializing without you just imagine
what you to could do. If he doesn't want to take you with him, go out yourself. You deserve a night out too.
At least once a week or twice even.

Tell him your not staying home all the time, and go out with the girls, maybe he'll change his mind when
you start---socializing. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 11

you should invite your girl-friends that have babies over, listen to some nice music and drink champagne, have the babysitter hold the baby while you serve appetizers. Wait until the baby gets older and if you want to go out - start by going to the movies.