Does anyone else have this problem ? I have a pattern of quitting jobs when things get uncomfortable...?

Question

Like when I'm new on a job, someone will take me under their wing almost every time and then eventually they'll talk bad about the boss and company and other people, while seeming to be the good guy around there and for a while I will believe this to be true and then time shows the truth in most situations but by that time I have formed opinions of people and put up my walls and then I usually end up not liking or trusting anybody in the whole office except maybe a few that I probably don't work close with. Most people for whatever reason will be short-tempered with me or antagonizing, try to make me look bad to others...the list goes on and I tend to take things too personally because I can't understand why people want to be nasty when I am nice to them. Some people are just insecure and unhappy with themselves and I know this is part of the reason. I am a co-dependent personality so I worry about these people and why they are that way until the point of great tension and

...and then I quit my job. I have done this many times over the period of my entire working life, which has been 16 years in office environments.

Answer 1

I can empathize with you as I have a similar history. It may be that the world is wrong and we are right! Ha, ha. In truth, though, I have worked with some horrible people over the years and at several different jobs. I tend to hate tension and discord at work created by co-workers when generally the job itself is stressful enough. Just recently I resigned from a position in which the person in a "leadership" role treated me unkindly and rudely. I think that one deserves respect regardless of one's status on the job. Additionally, I have read that relationships derived from employment should be secondary types (impersonal), but they seem to develop into primary ones, plus there also seem to be in-group/out-group politics in play which have histories prior to our arrivals upon the scenes, and (unfairly) we are expected to choose sides. I do wish you (and me!) luck in the future as working is apparently a necessary evil!

Answer 2

Girl, you just don't want to work! You need to quit making excuses for quitting jobs and learn to be responsible. You don't need to go to work to make friends. Who cares about this person or that person and what they're doing. Just DO YOUR JOB and don't concern yourself with others. You can be cordial and speak to your co-workers, but you don't have to become personally "involved" with them. Honey, 16 years is a long time for this type of nonsense. And if you've had the same types of experiences in ALL of your workplaces, do you ever entertain the thought that YOU might be the problem?

Answer 3

there'll in no way be a job you'll carry that isn't have someone/persons being catty, gossipy, or backstabbing. Its the way of the international. What you want to do is come across a job and delivers up relying on others, for some thing.

Answer 4

oh my i am exactly like you i get so frustrated that i say to heck with it which since i am now 47 i wish i would have tried a little more to work things out the more vacation time and etc..you then get do what ever makes you feel better sometimes WE JUST GOTTA MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!