agree on the same things.
2007-01-18 08:48:28 · 19 answers · asked by boshie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, Just don't talk about Religion!! You should be fine.
2007-01-18 08:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It can work out if you agree to disagree. If both of you sincerely accept the other's point of view, then there shouldn't be a problem. But if either of you feel the need to try and change the other person's mind, this is not a good thing for a relationship. If you're looking for someone to have a family with, these questions need to be addressed the sooner the better; how to raise kids would be an important question - often, the religious differences manifest themselves most noticeably in regards to kids; if both parents of different religious backgrounds feel equally strongly about which religion the kids must follow, it's bound to be a disaster.
2007-01-18 17:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying that she would not have your best interest at heart but this would pose a problem. Think about it? You both are going in two totally different directions. Maybe she could change one day or change you one day. So I would not even put myself in that situation. Maybe you could show her a better way but at the same time she may start feeling pressured by you. It would not be fair to say just dont share things involving religion b/c one day yoou may decide to be together seriously. You should be able to talk to your partner about EVERYTHING. How would it feel if after you got really serious like engaged or married and you were going to church and she was going to the club? So there is alot of reasons why the two of you should really think about this situation. Also, you a church going man, you know what to do fall on your needs and ask GOD for guidance. You know he will never fail you. Stay blessed!
2007-01-18 17:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your definition of "working". It's totally possible for you as a christian to have an OK relationship with someone who is not,. but if you intend to make it a long term relationship you will find that you will part ways on a lot of the larger issues, and that will be a problem. It also depend s on how devout of a christian you are. The bible says "be ye not unequally yoked." If your want to stay within the teaching of Christianity & you relationship gets really serious, she going to have to get serious about her Christianity or it won't work.
Being a christian my personal opinion on the matter is that I need a christian partner who shares my beliefs and love for Jesus Christ. Becuase my faith is such a big par tof who I am and the compass for what I do in life. I wouldn't want to be hooked up with someone who wasn't operating on that same wave length. But that's just me. Good Luck.
2007-01-18 17:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run, no. Marriage is tuff enough without having differences in politics and religion... this , hon, is a no brainer. Those who believe in the supernatural are or become, almost crusade-like and determined to change those around them who are not supernaturalistic. Those who are not, begin to resent the pressure, and argument, since supernaturalism flies in the face of reason. Her respect will slide for you, as will her admiration, and passion soon follows. Then you two get to be roommates. Nope, would never marry someone with a different slant on religion that I , not ever, not a chance They are off the list before it is even begon........ it is just toooo obvious what the long run will hold.. unhappiness, resentment, frustration and anger..... Nope, never.
2007-01-18 17:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always a possibility it can work... after all, the Bible says that if you are already married to someone and you then convert to Christianity, you are supposed to stay with the same person whether or not he or she is a Christian or not. BUT the Bible does say that you aren't supposed to be unequally yoked. There is good reason for this.... marriage is supposed to be another portion of fellowship and communion with God. Who will you pray with, how will you decide how to raise the children, what roles will the both of you have in the marriage? It can get very complicated. As a Christian you have the responsibility to follow God first and your heart second.
2007-01-18 17:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Religion is overrated and people put too much emphasis on it. If you are in love with this person, do not allow this to come between you all. I am not religious at all and my wife was brought up a strict church goer and we are fine and have a child. We don't talk about it much and when we do she sees my points and she helps me understand and answers questions about religion. As for our son, I agree that you have to discuss this, we decided to allow him to grow up and figure that out on his own. If he has questions we'll answer them and allow him to make that choice. I feel young children get pressured into church and feel like there is no alternative in life.
2007-01-18 17:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can definitely work out! I am in a similar relationship and we are doing great! Here is some things I would suggest doing though. I would sit and talk about if you had children, how would they be raised and would they be baptised. this is not something you want to discuss when you find out your girlfriend is pregnant or after you have a baby. This is very important!! TRUST ME! me and my boyfriend argued for months about if my daughter ws going to be baptized. Even though she did get baptized, he isnt sure that he wants her to go to CCD or have communion or anything! It is now a fight when its time deal for us, you dont want that!! make your decisions now and if you are both okay with them, you should have a long happy relationship. Good luck!
2007-01-18 17:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm non-religious and my bf's is Lutheran. It's not a big deal between us- we've both agreed that we believe what we each believe and that we won't try to convert each other. It works for us. Is each of you a good person? Beyond that, does it really matter if you two are religiously identical?
2007-01-18 17:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a total christian? If you are trying to put a label or measure on her level of faith there is something seriously wrong with your view of life and spirituality.
No I do not think it can work with you.
2007-01-18 17:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you don't agree on.
I am not Christian (I WAS brought up Catholic, but don't practice anymore.), but even though I'm not a churchgoer, I think I have a good head on my shoulders, and am pretty good at making good choices. I have morals and standards.
I'm not sure it matters whether or not she's Christian (unless that really bothers you.) I think what matters is whether or not you agree on certain fundamental issues.
It really depends on what you don't agree on.
You've dated for a year now; you should have a fairly good handle on whether or not she's the girl for you.
2007-01-18 17:01:12 · answer #11 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋