my problem is huge my husband is a porn director and sometimes he perform too,he never told me this i found that,we have a baby girl together, the problem is that his "job" is really difficult for me because i dont do the same job but on top of that i found out that he has another relationship with a porn start and when i comfront him he didnt seem to be nervous at all ,he told me that shes not serious for him ,but he still with this girl i know that i am not going to trust in him anymore i dont even kiss him or anything i complitle reject him,however he said that no matter how he will never let me have another man what can i do??
2007-01-18 08:44:33 · 13 answers · asked by usher 305 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him & get child support from the courts.Take your baby at all times because if you dont,,he can say that you abandoned the child & will get custody.
2007-01-18 08:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was a simple solution. You don't sound happy and as hard as it is if he's not willing to give up the job and the other woman for you then I'd suggest finding a good attorney. Divorce sucks and it should never be a first choice especially when a child is involved. However, at the same time, he's putting you at risk by sleeping with a porn star. There's nothing to say he won't bring an STD home to you. You deserve someone who ONLY wants to be with you. If he doesn't want that, then you deserve someone better!
2007-01-18 16:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweet heart I usually would never tell someone to leave there spouse, because I am a Christan.
But in this case yes you need to leave him file for a divorce and for child custody.
You do not want a child brought up around that kind of environment. I know that this may seem kind of harsh but he is the slime ball for not teling you.
If he says he will chance don't believe him get out while you can because he would be just lieing to you.
Well what ever you do do not waste time get a court order and take the baby girl and leave.
2007-01-18 17:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that he is playing you for a fool. You need to realize that you are better than that and that the love you both had for each other has faded away, and the respect has vanished. If he was in love with you, he would never be with another girl period, job or not...You deserve better than that and you willl find someone that will respect you and your relationship, with your daughter, this guy thinks life is like a porn movie, he wants his cake and icecream to eat it too...well this is where you say no. You need to leave him because he will never change girl, you can do so much better girl....and so can you baby. You dont want to get any std's or any of that sh**t. good luck.
2007-01-18 16:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by dream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a Dead relationship to me.. Just take the baby and go.. If he trys to fight for the baby, just tell An Attorney and the local police that you do not want your child around that kind of life style. If you believe him about him not letting you have any other man in your life, go ahead and file a restraining order against him..With what he does for a living, you should have NO problems getting away from him..
2007-01-18 16:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you need to get help. I hope you find an answer here on line, but it sounds like you are in a bad situation. forget the fact that he has another woman, or stars in porn, what about aids? What about your daughter? Get her out of there! But on top of all that, he will not let you move on. That is the worst part! Does he threaten you? You need to find someone who can help, and protect you before you end up hurt!!
Good luck
2007-01-18 16:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by dearnasty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him because its not fair whats hes doing to you, and that you have to find out on your own, he cant be honest then you deserve better!!!and he will have to let you have another man if you want 1!! if not get a restraining order against him
2007-01-18 16:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always get a job as a makeup artist on set and keep an eye on your husband.
2007-01-18 16:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Will G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can and will find another man. You need to seriously lose this one baby girl. You will be fine.
2007-01-18 16:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt really trust him. & I know they go through screenings and stuff to make sure nobody has any diseases or anything but I still wouldnt feel safe w/him
2007-01-18 16:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋