What are the odds of an affair working out into a relationship?

Answer 1

i believe 50/50 chance...the "relationship" i mean in a broad term...you could end up being friends after the heat of passion is cooled...who is to say---it depends on the ppl involved

Answer 2

I can't help but wonder what source of information all these people are using to base their answers upon. I notice none quoted a source. While I agree that such a relationship might have a lot of difficulties to establish into a life-long committment, I know of one such case that has worked out. Sometimes the initial relationship was the one that was a mistake and should not have been entered into.

Perhaps it would take much more trust to build a post-affair relationship. Try to imagine that you did disolve your primary relationship and establish one with the secondary. Would you wonder what he/she was doing while you were on a business trip? Would you be able to have maritial relations with him/her and not wonder if somebody else had been there that day? These would be the kinds of thinks you would need to consider long and hard before entering into the relationship.

Affairs can occur for many reasons. Some of those may be suggested here in these answers. One is not and it is compulsive sexual behavior disorder. If the cause of the affair is sexual addiction, a realtionship with the person in the affair will not address the main issue. That is that one or both parties feels an overwhelming desire to engage in this risky behavior for reasons other than those necessary to establish a long term relationship.

Read the book, "Out of the Shadows" to learn more or feel free to email me and we can discuss this further.

Answer 3

Marginal. Usually when there is an affair, there is a built-in dishonesty factor that can spill into the subsequent relationship. Also, the factors and underlying problems that started the affair are not gone, just under the surface. When it turns into a relationship, many of those problems often resurface, and can lead into another affair, just with someone else. It's best to end the affair, find out what caused it in the first place, and work on the marriage. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

First of all an affair isnt right, however you have found yourself in this mess. You need to get away from spouse and the one you have the ongoing affair with and give yourself sometime to think. Alot of times affairs are exactly what they are called. They are brief and exciting, something new. However look at what you already have and what all you have shared. Do you still love them and if not then what happened? If an affair can work out the answer is yes, look at the divorce rate.

Answer 5

I would say that the chance is not good of it lasting a lifetime. If she is cheating on her spouse wouldn't you think that she is going to do the same to you at some point or vice verse. Another thing is why are you with her are you truly in love or is it just the forbidden sex? Affairs by know means is a good thing a lot of people gets hurts in the aftermath. If she loves you or wants to be with you why cheat on her mate now why not leave now instead of then? I know you are probably saying now is not a good time yeah right if you are unhappy in any situation you leave the situation, don't believe everything that is being said to you you might just be the person that getting got. If you are the person that's cheating why not just leave or talk it out? Are there kids involve? Think it through before you act it out it never goes as planned think it out.

Answer 6

one of you is a cheater... it will always be in the back of your minds... relationships are based on mutual trust among other things... but if there's no trust how could you willingly enter into another relationship? One of you has already crossed that line... you get out of life what you put into it... I would say the odds are not good walk away and either figure out what lead you into the affair... or find someone single to start fresh with... your both walking into a dead end turn around and try again

Answer 7

Although rare, work related affairs do sometimes work out. Our affair began on a bet and even though there have been some ruff times and some hurt feelings in the nend it became the best more I ever had. next month will mark our 9th year together.

Answer 8

I have a co worker that is now with the woman he cheated on his (first wife) with. It isn't a nice relationship. Evey time he leaves the house she thinks that he is cheating.. So I don't think that any relationship that starts as an affair could work out.

Answer 9

An affair in itself is a relationship, though in its early stage.

Whether you can build it into a stronger emotional bond is a matter of your will and willingness. So, the odds are what you want them to be.

Answer 10

Very, very slim because the reason affairs occur is usually the result of either or both persons' commitment phobia or, theya re attracted to affairs because they signal a LACK of commitment.
If you are the 'other' person, they dont have to vow anything to you, dont owe you anything. They can cast you aside at any moment- and they like that power and freedom of choice- like some kind of a salad bar, they'll just take what they please, when they please, and leave when they're done.

And even if it did work out, why would he/she not just cheat again, on YOU?

Answer 11

Most likely it will not turn into a long term healthy relationship. A corner stone of a relationship is trust. How can two people who cheated on others,to be with each other, trust each other?