How do you know if you should stay married?

Answer 1

Interesting question and I don't think that there is an absolute answer.
All we have in life to give is our experience, so here's a bit of mine in the form of an opinion.
My wife and I had some very serious issues during the course of our marriage. We talked about divorce, seriously, twice that I can remember. Both times over an infidelity. One hers, one mine.
What kept us together was our vows. How seriously did we take our word, our vows and what were we going to do about the facts as presented.
We fought, went to counseling, we talked to a minister, we fought some more and we separated for a time.
What I learned is that no situation is permanent, no attitude irreversible and no problem so sever that it can't be over come.
What kept our marriage alive was the fact the we gave our word that we would love, honor, cherish and comfort each other till death do us part. Did we both live up to all the standards? NO. But we didn't get divorced either. It takes a lot of work and want and sometimes all that it can be is living up to your word. You said you will, so you do.
As simplistic as that sounds, as corny and naive as it is, it is what kept us together.
Our problems happen right before we were married 10 years and again right after 20.
The last 15 have been the best 15 years of my life and I look forward to the next 15, or how ever many more we have left.
Hard work is called hard work for a reason and sometimes living up to what you said you would do is hard work.
If both of you have honor, stay married and work it out.
If one of you has no honor, get divorced.
Strange as it may sound, it takes some time to learn to love someone. Falling in love is easy, staying in love diffucult, but loving someone takes a lot of time.
Just my opinion, I might be wrong.

Answer 2

I would know I should stay married because I got married. Being married is a perfect reason to stay married.

Answer 3

I feel you should stay married if you know that you and that person have a certain connection. That connection would be somebody you share a friendship, love connection. Think about how that person makes you feel when your apart and when your together. I would try to give each other space or talking is the best way to see the positive and negative of the relationship.

Answer 4

Unless he is abusive or you are sleeping in different bedrooms, or he is bringing new female friends over for sleep overs, than you should always stay married, you married for love; so fix it if that's all that is broken.

Other than that; stop getting married if you don't know what it truly means BEFORE THE COMMITMENT.

Answer 5

If you have to ask that question, then you shouldn't stay married.

Answer 6

Ask yourself if you are better off with or without your spouse.
Do you still have respect for him or her?
If you have children is what is wrong with the marriage affecting them? Think long and hard as you answer these questions and you will come to a conclusion on your own.

Answer 7

Touchy subject I think that if you have to ask if you should still be married there is something wrong, so either try to work it out, or it IS time to get a DIVORCE.

Answer 8

First of all, ask why you think perhaps you should not. If there is a question like that in your mind, perhaps it is time to seek professional Marriage and Family counseling, even if you are the only one who goes initially.

Answer 9

Ask yourself why you got married in the first place, and is it what you hoped it will be.

Answer 10

Well hopefully you do know if you love your spouse or not. If you don't then it's time to throw in the towel, if you do then you need to do whatever it takes to fix the problem