Like when I'm new on a job, someone will take me under their wing almost every time and then eventually they'll talk bad about the boss and company and other people, while seeming to be the good guy around there and for a while I will believe this to be true and then time shows the truth in most situations but by that time I have formed opinions of people and put up my walls and then I usually end up not liking or trusting anybody in the whole office except maybe a few that I probably don't work close with. Most people for whatever reason will be short-tempered with me or antagonizing, try to make me look bad to others...the list goes on and I tend to take things too personally because I can't understand why people want to be nasty when I am nice to them. Some people are just insecure and unhappy with themselves and I know this is part of the reason. I am a co-dependent personality so I worry about these people and why they are that way until the point of great tension and then I quit.
2007-01-18 08:31:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Knowing that you have a problem is a first step. What you need to do now is to learn how to deal with your problem (I know, easier said than done).
2007-01-18 08:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by jseah114 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need some help with your perceptions of yourself and others. Remember, you can't change others but you can change how you react to them. You don't have to go it alone! Hit the library and find "The 7 Habits of Highly Succesful People" or "Your Erroneous Zone". If you aren't a reader there are websites like http://www.stephencovey.com/.
Consider also the jobs you are in - are they really where you want to be? Maybe your dissatisfaction with the job is coloring your perception of the people around you.
Worry less about others and make YOU and your happiness a real project!
2007-01-18 09:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by lurkingonthirtyfourthstreet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will never be a job you will hold that will NOT have a person/persons being catty, gossipy, or backstabbing. Its the way of the world. What you need to do is find a job and stop depending on others, for anything.
2007-01-18 09:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is part of being an American. We are unable to maintain any significant job history. Once we do not like something we get rid of it. Bad marriage easy divorce. Don't like someone at work, quit. Get upset with a friend, stop the friendship. etc. etc. etc.
Don't worry you are an average American
2007-01-18 08:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
female, you purely do not % to artwork! you ought to stop making excuses for quitting jobs and study to be in charge. you do not ought to bypass to artwork to make acquaintances. Who cares approximately this individual or that individual and what they are doing. do exactly YOUR job and don't difficulty your self with others. you would be cordial and communicate on your co-workers, yet you do not ought to alter into for my area "in contact" with them. Honey, sixteen years is a protracted time for the variety of nonsense. And in case you have had the comparable varieties of reports in all your places of work, do you ever entertain the thought you would be the subject?
2016-10-31 11:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is self defeating. You will destroy all possibilities of being successful just because you will not let other people be nasty if they want to be. Let them be, and distant yourself from them.
2007-01-18 08:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by whatevit 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to have that problem until I realized there was no perfect job and they all suck in some way or another. Your goal is to find the one that pays the most with the least amount discomfort. Good LUCK!
2007-01-18 08:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by SS LAZIO 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋