After my first love and i broke up,we fought for a long time before eventually becoming friends many months later.As time went by,we became closer and closer.We both knew we were still in love but knew it couldnt work out.He was my best friend,and he was there for me all the time,he could put a smile on my face whenever i was down.He reassured me about everything,and i know lots of my friends do,but i truly felt safe.As he helped me through a rocky relationship,he admitted he loved me.I ended up leaving the relationship to see him again,but realised i missed the other guy too much and we were just friends.He hasn't talked to me since,and i didnt mean to hurt him.I thought i could, but i cant cope with not having him in my life.I see him every day,and he's always catching my eye but never speaks.I tried talking via email but he ignored it.Why is he doing this after claiming and i know he did care for so long?
2007-01-18 08:20:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Simple, you rejected him. What do you expect?
2007-01-18 08:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in ways I am sure he is hurt and doesn't think he wants to go through it all over again. Maybe if you just give him some time and see what happens. After a while if you try again and he still doesn't talk to you then maybe you should just move on. But if this guy really means something to you then go for it. Things can't get much worse right?
2007-01-18 08:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by lustfulcalgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To break it down:
It's pride.
It's him being hurt.
It's him being defensive.
It's him realizing he doesn't need that kind of confusion in his life.
Bottom line is that you messed up and it's selfish of you to ask, "Why is he doing this to me?"
The better question is, "Why did you do that to him?"
Don't play victim because you were the one pulling the strings in this whole ordeal.
It doesn't sound like this guy is amused by your confusion or your games, so my best advice would be to cut your losses and be content with knowing that what is done is done.
Work on yourself and figure out what you really want in a relationship. Maybe if the stars are in your favor, the one you lost will see how you've matured and give it a second try.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 08:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes hurt. how would you feel if he had done what you did? give him some time and then try to contact him. I suggest you back off from any relationship with men for a while. you are on the rebound and going back and forth like a ping pong ball. you need time to get yourself together and figure out what you really need and want in your life. its hard to let go but sometimes you have to in order to move on and have a life.
2007-01-18 08:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You messed everything. You let him to make you confused. You should not let that happen. Now you have to back off, be single for a while and find a right person that won't confuse your mind and wont do on and off often. Don't you think what you just did was wasted your times lately??
2007-01-18 08:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend deosent like seeing u happy with another guy, when you were stumbling through relationships he knew that they would eventually fall apart, but since in this relationship it was working, he got upset and couldnt wait any long to make a move
2007-01-18 08:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by teneekambuys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are complex and crazy. Stay friends with this guy, it's too hard to keep track of his feelings. You need to be careful about your relationships, hearts are delicate things. Find a guy you can trust to handle your heart.
2007-01-18 08:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well duh did your little light in your head fuse out. Hell you and him were doing real good then you broke it off with him to go back with your ex and you wonder why he isn't talking to you. And now you want to make up. well for one you need to grow up and realize this is a reality check and the world doesn't revolve around you. So be lucky he might just look at you. You need to make a deciaion and stick with it.
2007-01-18 08:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurt people hurt people---you obviously wounded him a lot and maybe this is his way of paying you back-----I dont agree with it but maybe this is his way of coping with his hurt. You may have lost him---I would not continue to try and communicate with him....the ball is in his court---give it time and see what he does. good luck
2007-01-18 08:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you straddling the fence like that? I like him, I don't. He's my BF, he isn't. I left the other guy for him, but now I miss the other guy!
For heaven's sake! No wonder he's run away from you!
2007-01-18 08:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why but it doesn't matter. He should get over it and make up his mind what he wants to do. Do NOT blame yourself and don't try to figure him out. Get a date, someone who doesn't play mind games, and appreciates you. Be happy and live YOUR life.
Best wishes.
2007-01-18 08:26:18 · answer #11 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋