I don't know why I am not interested in sex at all, I am 25 yrs?

Question

MY husband calls me to have a sex but I will feel tired and sleep.

Answer 1

Maybe you're a lesbian. Go to a lesbian bar and see if you have a good time. Also, you might be asexual. Some people just miss the desire for sex gene. Isaac Newton, who died a virgin, was said to be asexual. Also, maybe your husbands really bad at sex.

Answer 2

Maybe you just sexually lost interest in him. Try to spice up your regular sex with new things....Or just go to the bathroom and get yourself in a mood and then walk outside and rip his stuff apart...DO SOMETHING! It is not healthy when you being so young dont want sex. Are you currently started to take some birth control or something? Sometimes that is part of a sideeffect. Talk to gyno or sexologist as a last resort

Answer 3

Have sex when you wake up in the morning.

Answer 4

I was married to a woman just like you. I was really glad when she left.

I dont think its normal, but some people just dont like sex.

Answer 5

First of all, ignore the insults from the idiots who have answered you already. There are a number of things that may be going on here, and you certainly deserve a more thoughtful answer than calling you a prude or a lesbian.

To begin with, there are medical conditions and drug side-effects that can cause a complete drop in sex drive. If you have recently been put on a new medication (including antibiotics, blood pressure meds, antidepressants, and many others), check the side effects. And if you have any other symptoms, consider having a checkup to make sure you're not suffering from a medical problem that's causing this drop in your sex drive. In other words, take care of your well-being first.

Next, how long have you been married? If you've been married longer than two or three years, it's actually normal for a woman's desire for sex to drop by 50% or more. A recent study in Germany interviewed more than a thousand couples, and virtuall all of them reported that the woman's desire for sex was "less than half" what it was during the first year of the relationship. The jury is out on WHY this is so, but it is now a documented fact (as opposed to something that guys have known about ever since the invention of beer, or maybe since the invention of guys :-).

The other question is, what makes you tired? Is it possible that you need to get more sleep or at least more rest? I jokingly told my wife recently that I've finally come to the conclusion that for her, foreplay begins with a good night's sleep. The only time she's really interested in having sex for her own satisfaction is Saturday morning, because she gets to sleep in, lie in bed for a long time, and feel rested. When she finally wakes up, she starts petting and snuggling with ME, because she has had the opportunity to catch up on her sleep and is ready for some satisfaction of her own. Which brings up another key difference between men and women: Men have sex to get rid of stress; women get rid of stress to have sex. One isn't right and the other wrong, but until you recognize this, it's a source of conflict, hurt feelings and frustration in both directions.

So to conclude this part of the lesson... take care of yourself. Get a good night's sleep, make sure you're not sick, and look out for your own well-being.

Then... you've done all that and your husband still wants to have sex with you. You and your husband need to talk about what's going on between you, because whatever else is going on, sex is at the heart of marriage. Has it simply become repetitive? Is he just saying "Let's have sex" and assuming you're going to start up instantly, like turning on a lightbulb? Is there something you could both do that would make it pleasurable for you?

This is where we finally got to in the past few years. My wife's sex drive dropped, first after the initial years of our relationship (as described by the German study I referred to -- see the Sources field for more info), and even more so after the kids were born. It's gotten better now that the kids are older and better able to take care of themselves, but we're still not in sync like those first years. Today, I would happily have sex every day, while my wife is quite content to be satisfied every Saturday morning.

So... here's how we compromise. If she's really tired and just not able to participate in sex on a given evening, I spend the time rubbing her feet (she teaches kindergarten and is on her feet a LOT during the day), lying on the bed holding her, and making her feel loved and cared for -- removing her stress. Sometimes this makes her feel relaxed and loved enough that we'll end up having sex that night. Sometimes she needs to recharge overnight and it'll be the next day, or the day after, before we get together. But the thing I've learned is that when I'm caring and considerate of her, even if it means I go without it for a day or two... she MORE than makes it up to me on day 3. (That's one advantage to a long-term relationship, and we're coming up on our 28th anniversary: we know everything we need to do to make it intense, explosive, and completely satisfying for each other.)

So in the final analysis, if you're falling asleep when your husband brings up sex, it could just be that you're missing a crucial component: intimacy. It may be that your husband will find it beneficial to be nice to you, take a little physical care of you -- backrubs, foot massages, or just lying on the bed with you petting your back and stroking your skin.

If your relationship -- like ours -- is fundamentally about taking care of each other, being there for each other, loving each other and expressing it fully and completely, then you may find that sex can be a big part of the relationship, even if you don't feel the drive as strongly as you once did. But it has to work both ways: your husband needs to warm you up, and not just with sex-based foreplay -- if sex is to be an expression of love and caring, then it has to START with loving and caring actions. You'll still end up sticky and out of breath, but you'll both be happier for it. :-)

Answer 6

So many women are like you. Boring and prudish in bed. I hope he cheats on you. He probably already has.