Why does he have to treat me this way?

Question

I know that I am not the most perfect person in the world, but, I just don't understand life sometimes. My baby daddy and I broke up a month ago. He broke up with me because of some little reasons I don't understand and now he's with some one else.(Got with her three days after we broke up.) Now, he treats me like I'm nothing. Like I'm the scum of the earth. I don't understand it. I really didn't do anything to him, but he's just not all there anymore. I feel like I'm stuck in one place and I can't move on. What did I do. He just hates me. We can't even talk and I feel so depressed because of what he's been doing to me. What can I do to move on? Why is he treating me this way? I am just so hurt and I don't know how I'm supposed to deal with this all anymore. It's too much for me to handle. And, his family is making it even worse for me; they treat me bad too.

Answer 1

Well, Stefi, the whole point of breaking up was to get with the other girl. I'd bet the farm on the fact that he was with this girl long before your breakup. That's why he left over such trivial, inane reasons. It's not going to be easy for you to just "forget about him". You have a child with him and are, therefore, tied to him forever. You do, however, have to be strong for yourself and your baby. Realize that a problem has been removed from your presence and only deal with him when you HAVE TO (i.e. for the sake of your child). Don't bad talk him in front of the baby (even in later years) and don't have any interaction with his family if you don't have to. Keep the peace as much as possible and don't play adult games by using the child as a pawn (because the child will ultimately end up being the one who gets hurt). Hold your head up, keep the faith and press on toward a brighter day for you and your child!
God bless! :)

Answer 2

I am sorry you are feeling this way but it is because some men are just a$$h0les point blank they want what they cant get and when they get it they sometimes dont want it anymore one guy said to me when i asked him this question that its all about the chase for him and once he conquers(sleeps with her) then next as messed up as it is thats how some men are. That does not mean that you have to be the victim in this I know this must be reallly hard on you but remember what wont kill you will only make you stronger of a women for the next man that tries to do you wrong but you know what girl "What comes around goes around" trust me he will get his one day til then try to keep yourself busy if you have any family or friends then make plans to do things that you enjoy or just spend some time with your child but whatever you do please do not let this rub off on your kid because my father was a real piece of $hit too he got my mom pregnant with me and months into it my mom finds out he got this other women pregnant too so he stayed with that women and made a family so while growing up my mom would drink and try to block out the pain and at times just not be there for me so my grandmother was my mother really and now my mom is ill so i have to care for her this has caused soo much resentment to her in my life that its sad so pleasse be there for your baby i wanna say F him he dont deserve you and you know what the sooner you realize that the sooner you will get over him and when he realizes that he lost a good thing he will come crawling back they always usually do and it will be too late!! You need a man that will appreciate you and be there for you and your baby what you have is a "baby" that is a daddy to ur child. You are no mans dooormat so him and his fam can beat it meanwhile vent all you need cry scream and sleep when your done go out and have some fun cause you deserve it! read my questions you will see you are not alone although i had no baby by my bf of 3 yrs but he doesnt appreciate me too and im tired of it also but I love him soo much its hard but I know that if he cant treat me the way I deserve to be treated then I will find someone that will cause it is NEVER too late.... We get one life live it up!

Answer 3

He used the little reasons for breaking up as an excuse so he could be with someone else. He's being shitty to you know because of his guilt. You have not yet moved on because you didn't want to break up so have unresolved feelings. Can you maybe communicate via a family member (yours) so he and his family don't get the opportunity to treat you like crap. You don't have to listen to their nonsense, tell him you won't communicate with him directly if he can't be civilized. Give it a little more time, try to go out and have some fun with friends. If you are not moving on in a couple of months you could maybe consider counselling. Good luck.

Answer 4

Ladies, please understand that there are what 6 billion people in the world today; well guess what, most of the people are just AHoles. Not worthy of truly anything. Expect us all to run into this type of situation until we get to a point where we are sick of the same old story. We evolve, like life. We eventually know our needs and the type of guy we (meaning you) want. Chalk it up as a growing pain, but always keep moving forward. If you play your life right that one special dude is really waiting, but reflect on your past, think about your future, than open your eyes and see who is standing there.

He left you because he was having an affair and you are not his type. He's what we like to call "a dirt bag". find a better guy. There out there, believe me; I'm one

Answer 5

I don't know your situation so I can't say for sure that you didn't anything wrong. I can't even tell you why he's acting the way he is. What I can say is this. For the sake of your child try to keep things civil with your ex.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. You remind me of me after I left my (ex) husband. Find a friend you can go out with. You need to come more independent. Once that happens, you'll slowly move on and it won't matter what he says or does. In the meantime, try talking to him the next time you see him and express the desire to get a long for the sake of your child. Let him know that you're not trying to get him back and that he's free to go on with his life.

Answer 6

Hay baby - hang in there, right now everything sucks - its hard just to focus on only you child - i know - because when you had this child you didn't expect to be alone in it. Its very tough, just try and breath - see a therapist - because when some one shuts you off so fast and so hard its like being being killed over and over. You can move on, you will move on - hang out with friends - talk about how you fell with a close family member or friend. You will be o.k. Lets not let this looser have that much power over you.
Do somthing nice for your self - Take care baby and good luck.
Be a great mom and in order to that you have to be great to yourself.

Answer 7

He probably was with this other girl before he broke up with you.

He is treating you bad because he is an a$$, you probably didn't do anything wrong but you guys have a child together so I understand how hard it is for you to let him go.

He sounds like a weak punk to me, taking the easy way out to avoid the responsibility of a child...loose the looser and his family too.

Answer 8

Lady move on hes not worth te pot u piss in , some men can be that way , somemen cant face the responsibility of being a daddy and the fear of being tied down , just move on u will find someone in time someone that will lov eu and that baby and treat u the way u deserve for now i would just focus on yourself and that baby no guy or gal is worth the love and affection that your child can bring u

Answer 9

I have two ideas:

1. You need to move on for the benefit of your baby. You being depressed can't help you baby. I think you need to think of your baby first and put your personal feelings behind, remembering how important your child is.

2, If your baby's daddy didn't marry you, that should have given you a hint as to what kind of person he is. If you have your act together, you deserve better than him. Don't waste your time and your emotions over a person who is not worthy of you.

Answer 10

One way of understanding many abusers is that they feel inside like babies deserving of an all-giving mother. They do not tolerate disappointment when you are anything less than perfectly nurturing. For some abusers, that may occur in any area of your life together. For others, there particular triggers ( food preparation being a very common one). Disappointments at home may remind him of his first household with caretakers who didn't meet his needs.

There is another category of abusers who are interested in all areas in which they can control you. This may have less to do with specific disappointments, than with a need for all-out dominance and a hair-trigger temper that erupts even outside your relationship.

Some professionals also distinguish a third category of abuser. This is one who lacks the ability to feel the pain of others, (sometimes enjoys inflicting pain), and has no scruples in manipulating people in any area of his life. Clearly this is the type of abuser who puts you in the greatest physical danger.