2007-01-18 07:58:44 · 11 answers · asked by cassiehartman 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
then he will good dad, if he was not nervous then he would be in trouble. don't sweat it, you will learn to be a dad as your child learns to be your child.
2007-01-18 08:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by native 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was sooo nervous to become a day during the pregnancy. He was just nervous that he wasn't going to be a good dad. I was a little nervous too but I was more excited than anything else. I didn't let him know I was at all nervous. I just told him that I was so excited and then I told him that being nervous was normal. I also told him that as soon as the baby was born, he would forget about being nervous, and he did. You are so consumed with the baby that you don't even think about being nervous. So much of what you do with your baby comes naturally and once he finds himself involved with the baby, he'll forget he was even nervous. Tell him that and also tell him that you know he will be a good dad and you and he will do whatever it takes to keep the baby happy.
2007-01-18 08:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by annamartin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, its very common for a father to be nervous specially if is a 'first' time. There is nothing wrong with feeling 'fear' or uncertainty.
How we respond to those feelings is what really matters.
There are many ways to respond to this by looking for information, learning about the process, talking to close and dear friends, connecting to the mother to be in an emotional level and as a couple creating an enviroment of safety for the 3 of you. The worst of all the options for you to select is to become nasty toward the mom to be or sabotage the situation trying to get out of the responsability or even worst, dissapearing...
Life has many stages in which we perform different roles... this is just one of them that in time, will bear its fruits. Make sure you care well of this role and do the very best. Look at your father for example of WHAT to do / be or WHAT NOT to do or be. And if you had no parental model to follow, I am sure you can find a good father model to serve you as a point of reference.
Feeling fear is okay. Letting fear take over you, its wrong. Good luck and my best.
Veronica
2007-01-18 08:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by winter_71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific, i replace into very aggravating. the existence type replace is enormous. i'm not likely to sugar coat it, yet your first 3-4 months are going to be VERY tricky, VERY stressful, and that's all there is to it...yet after that...get waiting for the main astounding time of your existence. issues start to get VERY relaxing after approximately 4-5 months. Being a dad is astounding. you do not know what love is till at last you have that little toddler smiling and clinging to you. purely cling in there, because of the fact like I reported, it starts slightly tough, yet from there...there is not something extra advantageous than being a dad. Congrats and sturdy success.
2016-10-07 08:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very common! do you have any friends with kids? maybe he can get some practice holding them, playing with them, etc. make sure you include him in all the decisions, such as nursery decor, clothes, etc. Little by little, he'll get more comfortable talking about diapers and burpcloths and breastfeeding! ;) My husband was nervous, too, but once he held our daughter in his arms, and she looked up at him... it all just comes naturally. And my husband is a great dad! I don't know what he was worried about! it will come with time and practice! Good luck!
2007-01-18 08:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be he is responsible for starting a life. I think he is probably worried about being able to be a good dad and provider for his child. It is very normal. You could get him to read some books and share some info with him on what to expect.
2007-01-18 08:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to encourage him to talk about it. Get him involved by letting him head up the registry part (or at least give him the little scanner). Let him pick the baby's colors or the theme. Also, give him a little humor every once in a while. Try this out:
http://humor.about.com/cs/funnypeople/a/dada_letterman.htm
2007-01-18 08:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that's totally normal. nobody's ready to be a parent for the first time, so it's gonna be good so he learns what not-to-do on a second pregnancy. he should read books about babies and being happy that he's coming on a "next level" in his life, so he can see himself on different faces.a child is a blessing, and a chance to see life from different perspectives.
2007-01-18 08:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by sweetrocker_131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure him that you have faith in him & that you love him & want him to be a dad & you now he'll do great, then...Get him this book it is so funny he'll forget most of his fears, & realize that anyone who really wants to can do this job (parent)...
So You're Going To Be A Dad by Peter Downey
http://www.amazon.com/So-Youre-Going-Be-Dad/dp/1555612415
2007-01-18 08:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother to be is probably nervous too...
2007-01-18 08:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by ajax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋