why some best friends drift apart?

Question

any good stories?

Answer 1

Me and my friend, i guess we've just changed, and our backgrounds didn't fit, our difference and everything.

I've moved schools, she's busy, i'm an internetaholic, she's a bookaholic, it's just that :


people have different needs. If you move from China to America, you're going to have to get used to the hot temperatures. When you go from America to China, you'll have to get used to seeing people wear big coats in 40 degrees.

just as that, different areas, different times, makes a difference.


But what i believe is that, no matter how strong the difference is, it won't affect a friend's relationship.
Like the saying, " if the pair was in love so much, no one could of broken them up"
it just won't happen.

I've only heard of one bes friend story. They've been best friends, nothing came in the way. They've shared every moment, they cared for each other.


Here are my top reason why i don't feel i have any best friends or why have i lost them:
1) They don't care for me
--------------Reason, if they don't care for each other, that just simply means they don't care if you die. if the friendship was strong, one would cry finding their bff died..
2) We don't connect much, for example, calling, sms, im
-------------Reason, the friendship will soon go off with such less connection. No connection means you can't find each other's interest in each other's taste and new ideas for new things, etc.
3) No entertainment, such as movies, swimming, etc
-------------Reason, no matter how much a friendship has lasted, if they have no entertainment together, that's just going to seperate them apart. it's like no eatting, without hanging out once in a while, it might as well start breaking up the friendship without even mentioning it,
4) They just simply, don't understand me
---------------Reason, if they don't understand you, that means, they don't care about what you want to do, they don't care if you die, or they don't even want to listen to you
5) No trust
---------------Reason, if they can't trust me, i can't trust them that their going to not tell my secrets.



my story:
I have moved in 4th grade. the 5 years in my 1st elementary school i have met my bff in kindergarten. She's been my best friend since ever. we've been to each other's house many times. We never fought. until one year, she paired up with another person that doesn't like me and made a plan that would make it seem like i was guilty and i would have to get suspended. we got in a fight for that. Then, the 5th year - 4th grade - schools were a mess, and another school had to combine with ours. And stuff were crazy. We both met new friends but often called and talked about stuff. later, i moved because my famiyl got a new house, but i think, what seperated us wasn't the moving and the school and everything, it was probably we just had different tastes and style. We thought we were best friends. She was wearing nearly the same outfit everyday, while i wore clothes from china and i loved fashion. That just made a use wall between us. I think i only thought she was my friend because what i needed was only trust, That's all i thought i needed in a friend. I was wrong, i need a love of friendship. We were seperated and different from the start. All we did was just keep our secrets and promise not to tell. that was all i wanted to do. Just share our secrets. THen i started to think back just last year,and i thought, she really didn't understand me. everyone in my school could tell when i was depressed when i need most care, but she never asked me, are you okay before. i just noticed that. she hasn't.
I guess, no matter how well, you thought your friendship was, if it was seperated at first, it will forever be,

Answer 2

I'm sure those stories wouldn't be good news, but...
Friends just drift apart sometimes, and unfortuanltly the sad news is, we can't stop it! People change to different people, when they meet the line of maturity, everyone does at different ages.
I know a lot of people that have been friends since birth, but long friendships don't always last.... As I said people move on, meet new people, but it isn't bad to stay friends with the old either... But Always having one good friend to count on, is the best t hing anyone could ever ask for

Answer 3

Everyone has his or her own life to live and when other people enter the picture sometimes we get put on the back burner. My best friend and I have been friends for over 20 years. But it is not unusual to go months without communication other than the internet. However, if we truly needed each other we are only a phone call away. True friends don't have to be joined at the hips. For Christmas I bought us matching angel figurines. Now we know that we can just look at the angel and know the other person is always there in our hearts.

Answer 4

I believe friends come and go. You only ever find one Best Friend in your life. - And you never drift apart if you are that close. Some times you may become separated through ones death, But you always remain in your heart best friends. No matter how much time passes........

Answer 5

Good question, its just happend to me, its a horrible thing to go through.