my daughter is 3 months old and i am letting her cry it out at night time and naps (just started a day ago) its a little scary cause she cries a lot but as soon as i pick her up she stops. Can babies go into shock or are there any health risks to letting her cry it out
2007-01-18 07:54:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I believe in the cry it out method, but not at 3 months. At 3 months, she's still very little and those cries are because she actually needs you.
I wouldn't start letting her cry it out until she's 6 months..maybe 5 months at the least.
2007-01-18 07:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
My mom always used to let my baby cousins "cry it out" while watching them. I highly doubt that there are any "health risks" per se except to be sure she doesn't choke or something. Some babies are just colicky like that. My mom said I never cried as a baby, but my little brother cried constantly. You get to a point where ... you could cuddle the baby for 24 hours a day, but you'd never be able to eat or shower or ... do whatever.
If you pick her up and she's quiet, she might still want to cuddle. Babies do need to feel a person's touch. Maybe see if she'd like to nap with you in an armchair?
Otherwise, if you normally cuddle her a ton and just can't do it anymore and need a minute break to do something else, I'd say don't worry about it. She won't tell her shrink at age 20 that she resented you for leaving her to cry at naptime at 3 months of age. Ha.
2007-01-18 08:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am trying to do that with my son as well, he is four months. Some recommendations I have gotten are to establish a routine with naps and bedtime to that babies learn what to expect. We read a story, have a short cuddle and then he gets put down in his crib with some music from his mobile. I found the first day he fussed a little but then went sleep. Now at night he does not even fuss but during the day sometime he will cry and cry. I usually give him a few minutes of crying in the crib with me comforting him verbally before I figure he his just not tired (or is hungry). So I take him out and try again in a little while. I have heard that babies about 3 - 6 months should be napping about twice a day. I hate to hear him cry so I usually only let it go for a few minutes.
I work in health care and have never heard of a child going into shock from crying it out.
2007-01-18 08:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by joelle w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you that there are any phisical risks but my feeling about that are not letting them cry for more than about 5 minutes. I mean, I would feel bad or guilty. Babies need to feel safe and secure and not be upset. Try letting her cry in 5 minutes intervals and see if you can get her used to going to sleep. That's what I read in a baby book.
2007-01-18 08:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At that age letting a baby cry it out is not good. She needs to know at this age she is safe. Try to find a video called Happiest Baby on the Block. this will help you learn a few does and don't with your baby. There is also one called Happiest Toddler on the Block.
2007-01-18 15:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you decide to ween your baby off the crying behaviors, it is best to fully understand her "triggers" - a baby will cry from discomfort in the diaper region, "gas," (you reduce this by being certain of "burping" her properly after each feeding), feeling 'lonely' or a lack of novel stimulation ,or simply feeling hungry. If it is determined that she is NOT suffering from colic, then she may simply want to be periodically held (as it suits her whim) and no parent can be that "on call" all the time. If you've held to her feeding times, and she has fresh change of diaper, and she's been properly "de-gased," then you may want to let her cry for at least ten minutes before piching her up... then slowly increase the time to see if she will literally cry herself to sleep... when her crying stops, check up on her to see all is okay, then catch a nap for yourself or a healthly drink & warm bath to sooth any frazzled nerves. Good luck with all that!
2007-01-18 08:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by cherodman4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too young to let her cry it out. Look up Dr. Richard Ferber....he is the biggest proponant of 'crying it out' and even he says baby must be close to a year old - if not older. Crying it out is a good idea when you are dealing with a manipulative toddler...NOT a young baby at 3 months. try a pacifier, try a swing, swaddle her, let her sleep on her sside....all these things may help her to sleep...being abandoned and left to scream at the top of her lungs WONT
2007-01-18 08:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, there are no biological health risks to letting a child "cry it out" (CIO) - it's more of a philosophical issue. I would say that it's not really fair to expect a 3 month old child to fit into an adult schedule. Children that age cannot be "spoiled" and they are not trying to be pests when they cry - they simply need to be fed more often than we do, and they're so helpless that they need physical contact and reassurance more than adults do. Please reconsider CIO.
2007-01-18 08:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by annieohbee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
3 months is definitely too young for that. Your baby will develop a sense that her needs aren't being met and will give up. You don't want that.
2007-01-20 14:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a baby that young is not yet ready to cry it out. i say pick her up and let her cry it out when she is older.
2007-01-18 08:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋