We would really love to try to conceive (we actually are trying - no success yet), then save for a down payment. A baby seems to be the better choice, after birth then see what our budget is and how much we can put aside each month for savings for a home. What do ya'll think?
2007-01-18 07:45:20 · 34 answers · asked by Amanda M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I take it you are a young couple and if so then as the
majority have already said it would be better for you to
invest in a home first as you will have plenty of time later
for a child. Having a child is a big big responsibility and
a mother and father wants the best for that child, so since
you do not have one yet and you are able to invest in a
home then that would be the best way to go .However do
what makes you both happy as that is also important for
a marriage to work. Good Luck in your decision.
2007-01-18 13:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question is a no brainer....Get the house first. The baby will come later. The house is an investment. You will have some where to grow up and have his or her own room and a back yard and all the things a child needs. Get the house first. Take care.
2007-01-18 07:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The house first, so that when you do decide to have kids, you won't be house poor.
Once you have a child, it will be harder to save.
It's hard enough trying to have a family, career and home, it's even harder when you have no money!
Try and put a big down payment on your house, making your mortgage and payments smaller, so that when your child is born, all your money isn't paying for the house.
Also, enjoy being married to each other, first. Then have children.
I have three kids, a career and my husband and I bought a house after our first child was born and we are still house poor. :(
2007-01-18 07:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by doodles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd get the house first and just enjoy eachother being married for a while before you have a baby. Afterall...don't you want your own house to raise you child in? Somewhere they can make memories? If you have to baby first you might have a really hard time affording a house and you will be stuck paying rent and throwing that money away for a loooong time...
2007-01-18 08:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems like you want a baby right away, but I would bet that most married couples who had babies quickly wish they would have waited longer to have a family. Babies are the greatest, but you will lose a lot of your together time, sleep time, vacation time, etc. I would enjoy your new marriage as just a couple for a while, buy a house, get your life settled, and then start a family.
Don't take my word for it, ask your friends and family who have kids what they think...
2007-01-18 07:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by jonmm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defer the pregnancy. Work on the marriage for the next 12 months and save for a house. Early marriage can be rocky.
If, for some reason the marriage fails, it's far easier to sell a house than to be a single parent.
Being dual-income, no kids for a while will always be special after you become parents.
2007-01-18 07:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are totally missing the emotional and spiritual side and ideas of what it will mean to create a baby and be a parent. You are too concerned with material matters. Maybe you should wait if you can't be mature enough to not equate a baby with a house.
2007-01-18 08:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your in your 20's then go for the house and get back on the pill. if your clock is ticking........ then it is a baby thing. You don;'t need a baby now that your just married. Wait for at least 2 to 3 years.
2007-01-18 07:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if u think u can BUY a babay, u 2 should get divorced. But if u werent stupid, u need a house to put a babay somewhere unless your parents dunt mind. So its not a hard question but u are i guess as the spanish say a PANDECHO
2007-01-18 07:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by starbury_crossover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
House first. Have to have a place to bring the baby home to.
2007-01-18 07:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋