I am 31 weeks pregnant and i made the less than good choice to fly to Romania.Just for the record it was a great opportunity job wise.I have had a perfectly healthy pregnancy up till this point . I had my doctor write me a note as well so i had no problems flying there and the airline seemed more concered with checking my bags than my pregnancy.Problem is i passed out at work and was taken to a hospital and put on bed rest.I have apparently started dialating and was told cant leave Romania.I am currently in the city of Iasi in a hotel.Other than the dialating i am fine i just cant fly because the doctors afraid i might go into labor. I told my future hubby what was going on and he said he can only afford to come and stay 3 day?He also said this is my fault for flying to begin with and proceeded to call of the wedding.He said also that he was not ready to be a parent when he was the one who convinced me to keep the baby because i was not sure?
2007-01-18 07:36:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can a 29 yr old man and corperate lawyer be acting so imature?He said he thinks that we both love our jobs too much and it will never work?
2007-01-18 07:38:21 · update #1
he seems to have changed his mind, thinks the pregnancy will cause his life to change drastically, realizes now he isn't going to be ready to commit, or handle the problems the pregnancy is beginning to have. but it is quite selfish of him, and he is showing u that he will not be there for u when problems occur that make him have to change his way of life. he isn't willing to give, he only wants it if it means there will be no problems involved. he is angry that u traveled he thinks u used poor judgment. he may come around once the baby comes, he may change the way he feels. but he isn't really willing to deal with things, or be inconvenienced about this.
2007-01-18 07:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he is freaking out! He does want this baby but he is feeling helpless cause he can't be there with you and when a man is scared and helpless they wig out. my husband ran away last month because I'm 8 months pregnant and he just can't deal with it. it's the end of there childhood in someways. He has to grow up and fast! I DO NOT THINK HE IS CHEATING! (everyone is so quick to judge, jeese!) I just really think he doesn't know what to do. if he can only stay out there 3 days then so be it, he may see you and think differently once he gets there or once he sees the baby he will not be so scared and realize what an azz he made of himself!
Best thing
talk to him, don't get upset because you need to take care of yourself and the baby. explain to him the baby is coming weather he wants it or not and backing out isn't an option at this point. Stay calm and don't worry so much about what he does or says, i know easier said than done but soon you will have your child and it won't matter anymore! Good luck!
2007-01-18 15:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be true that you both love your jobs so much but you both made th edecision to have the child and wehter or not he decides to mayy you he is still responsible for the child and needs to make sure the child is taken care of.
Sorry to say he sounds like a creep who has no feelings for you or your childs welfare
2007-01-18 15:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Corporate lawyers can afford the trip unless he spends all his money on candy or something.
2007-01-18 15:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congrats that your having a baby........but girl he is probably seeing someone else......like he is probably cheating on you!!!!! He needs to be stop be a jerk and needs to learn how to take care of you and his baby thats on the way. Gurl Good Luck, and I hope you and your baby's daddy work this out because you need him to take care of you and that baby thats on its way...........Good Luck!!!!!!!!
2007-01-18 15:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by baby_ems_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is soooo cheating......
GURL have your baby and love it.......forget about him he sounds like a jurk
2007-01-18 15:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋