I recentally got engaged and i am happy as can be..i have been with this same guy for 4 years and could ask for nothing more! There is a new guy that i work with which i find soo sweet and nice! hes a really good friend! sometimes i find myself wanting to talk to him..is there something wrong with this? i dont really have any attraction to his but it seams like maybe i have a little crush..what could this be?
2007-01-18 07:16:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Engaged does not make you immune to attractive men. Sure, you might have a little crush, but there't nothing wrong with it. As long as you know you love your finacee, then feel free to talk to the other guy.
Just don't flirt or send him mixed signals. If you want to be friends with him, fine. But don't lead him on. If you can't do that, then it's best that you avoid him for now.
When I got engaged I had a huge crush on one of the men I worked with. We talked all the time about everything. Now, we are still good friends and the puppy feelings I had for him are long gone.
2007-01-18 07:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explore these feelings and see what you come up with. My best advise would be to try and talk to your future husband , perhaps he is feeling the same way about another women and it could help you both understand that it is ok to find another person attractive. This "crush" maybe just be your subconcience trying to conjur up old feelings of your future husband from when you two first met. You may subconctiosly be stuck in a rut and this "transference" may be just part of your subconscience. There is nothing to be ashamed of, it is only human to question your feelings toward your future spouse and it is a question that takes a lot of thought. Good luck and congratulations on your engagment.
2007-01-18 07:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by lilithfan_bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just happens sometimes. There are tons of great things about being in a commited relationship but sometimes you just miss having a crush...that feeling of somthing new. Its normal. Dont worry about it but dont let yourself think that this might be something better or try to persue the guy. It will all pass shortly. Spend a nice long romantic evening with you guy and remember why youre marrying him then all will be well again.
2007-01-18 07:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may not be totally ready to marry this guy you are engaged to... You may have more wild oats to sow before you are ready to settle down... Don't make the mistake of getting married just to do it... It should be a life long commitment, not a mistake realized in a few years from now...
2007-01-18 07:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a little crush, but just because your engaged doesn't mean you can't have male friends or look at other men. After all, your not dead!!
2007-01-18 07:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a feeling you better get used to! if your already questioning yourself wait till you get maried and start not liking your husband. sounds like you are just going through the motions, taking the next logical step. if your husband was the one, you wouldn't be worried about talking to this other cat. call it off ASAP!
2007-01-18 07:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a crush and thats it. Need to be careful b4 it turns to something more.
2007-01-18 07:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with looking, as long as you don't act on your thoughts.
2007-01-18 07:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to him, you only live once. Is it me?
2007-01-18 07:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by just1more 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋