I want to make sure I am getting atleast the average. Thanks
2007-01-18 07:13:46 · 27 answers · asked by FromTheTop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no such thing as average when it comes to making love. You can have sex as many times as you like...it just depends on your mood. If you and your wife want to have sex 10 to 20 times a day....it's your choice. There's no limit to how often you're suppose to have sex. Enjoy your marriage!
2007-01-18 09:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by hys7768 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
giving it up? honestly.
romance and love lead to 'giving it up' so the question is
how often do you do anything to make her feel romantic?
it begins long before you hit the bed.
my husband had the same kind of attitude for some time. he finally got it through his head that he needed to make some effort as well - and not just the day he wanted to 'hit the sheets'.
for example:
he started helping with the dishes after dinner instead of sitting in front of the tube while i cleaned.
he would get up and get the coffee going in the morning instead of trying to outwait me.
he helped with various little chores.
he would ask if he could run my bath for me.
he would come home sometimes with a little gift. sometimes a small plant, a bouquet of flowers, an orange, a starbucks coffee, little things that showed he was trying. not every day....but it was so appreciated.
he stopped hanging out with his buddies every night after work, and he stopped chugging beer back every evening in front of the t.v.
he talked to me.
all of a sudden doing the housework, making dinner, doing laundry, shopping and 'giving it up' didn't seem like such a chore anymore. i felt like i was needed, wanted and loved.
try remembering everything you do adds up to her wanting to
'give it up'. it may take a bit of time on your part, but keep showing her you care. words are easy to spit out........but the old adage
'actions speak louder than words'
is very true
i hope as a newly wed you make an effort to change your ways and manners and i truly believe she will appreciate the difference and be happy to show her appreciation.
good luck!
s.b.
2007-01-18 15:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving it up? I'm sorry is your wife a whore? Who talks like that about their wife?!
Average is different for every couple. My husband and I average 2 times a week. Other people average less, and still others average more. As long as you both are happy with the arrangement then that is what is average for you.
2007-01-18 15:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make it good, by being romantic, and loving to her. She might do it all of the time. But if you approach as a need that needs to be fulfilled ( like going to the toilet) she will start to feel as if it is a chore, or wifely duty. You do not want to do that. It will become like washing the dishes for her, a chore that to have to force yourself to do. Don't make that such a big issue, and remember that women don't get turned on just because you say lets do it. It is 97% mental for a woman.
2007-01-18 15:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by what? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a newly wed. If it was up to me it would be every night. But since my husband isn't in to it since we are married...it is more like twice a month. I guess these are things that people never tell you. A lot of times once you put your wedding rings on...that is the end of the drive. This is the second time it has happened to me and I'm not ugly either.
2007-01-18 15:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I first got married it was several times/week. After about 2 years and her getting a new job, it decreased to several times/month. There is no reason why 1-2 times/week couldn't be maintained by most married couples. It would be great to have more, but I guess you have to compromise a bit.
2007-01-18 15:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by phfan5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want you to get back to The Basics. You'll enjoy yourself, a whole lot more, It's suppose to be called, "Making Love". Each time you're together, is SUPPOSE to be showing each other how much you love each other. Get out of that way of thinking that it's a conquest on either side. If it's about Love? It'll be so much better. For the both of you!
2007-01-18 15:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Twelve?
You make love to each other when you're both in the mood. There is no "average" and no one person "giving it up." What you should be making sure of is that you and your wife are respecting each other and that you're not forcing unrealistic expectations on each other.
2007-01-18 15:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every ones sexual appetite is different. Does the quaint really have to do with the quality of your sex. What is normal for some may not be normal to you. And to request a set amount might really make your wife angry.
2007-01-18 15:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's up to the 2 of you. If she only wants to be intimate once a week, learn to live with it. Your last statement makes you seem like a jerk.
2007-01-18 17:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋