please help me out here, everytime i try and get close to this girl she distances herself from me, whenever i give her space then she loves me , i've tried talking to her about it and she gets mad, starts crying that i won't leave her alone. she knows i love her, and some days i know she loves me, but within an hour she could care a less if i'm in the room. i can't be on the rollercoaster anymore and she knows it, any advise on how to handle this? do i walk away or just be happy with the certain days of the week she is in love with me?
2007-01-18 06:52:56 · 19 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to step back and give her some space. You don't deserve to be on this roller coaster and she is being really unfair by giving you double messages. I'm guessing she's scared of commitment. Don't settle for getting her love part time!
2007-01-18 06:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you on her a s s everyday, Some people don't like that torching feel everyday. They just like to be left alone. Maybe she just that way.Just because your in the same room as her in you think in a hour she could care less. What do you have a need to touch her every 5Min's.But then again is she getting mad and starts crying that you won't leave her alone.Then walk
2007-01-18 15:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if she is in fear of committment. Rather from past experiences. But the fact that you get close she backs off. Then when you back off she wants to be close. It is like she is afraid to lose you, yet at the same time would rather not have you. I have met several males and females like this. It can be very discouraging for the one on the opposite end. If you know in her heart that you are giving her enough space, but the moment you get close, she backs off. I may question rather or not the relationship is worth keeping especially if you aren't married. If you are uncertain of her love, this is another red flag. I don't think you should have to question someones love for you. If you do, then their will probably be trust issues eventually down the road. I know someone close to me that has "Issues" and it reflects alot in their relationships. It isn't so much the person whom is dating them, but their own insecurities and such. Good Luck in whatever you decide.
2007-01-18 15:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're smothering her, give the girl a chance to miss you. Nothing is more unattractive than a weak and needy man. If you're consistent about communicating that you care for her, you don't have to be a constant presence, she'll know how you feel and in the meantime you won't be annoying her by taking away her personal space. Personally I require a few hours of alone time everyday. One of my ex's totally resented that and just would not shut up or leave me alone, he was like a disease. I just couldn't take it, it made me distance myself even more.
2007-01-18 15:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by tiny_dog10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to make an appointment with her doctor.
Maybe she is suffering from anxiety attacks and needs medication.
If she refuses to see the doctor, you need to check in to a motel or stay at a friends house for awhile until she gets help on whatever is eating away at her.
If you really love her, you have to follow through with the plan.
It will also get her attention, because she will be shocked that you are actually acting on an impulse that could save your marriage, her life, and your sanity.
2007-01-18 15:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really gather all your thought and write her a letter. This way she can take the time to read it and really understand what your trying to say without the pressure of answering to you. Make sure its a day you wont be around for a little while, and at the end let her know if she cant talk to you and let her feelings out it may not work out. Tell her to come talk to you when shes ready.
2007-01-18 14:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by hey lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has a lot of problems and maybe even mental issues. Are you sure you want to get involved with her? She might just want to possess you so you don't go out with anyone else. Yet she really doesn't have any interest in love. I think you should step back and really think about it before you get in a relationship.
I wish you the best!
2007-01-18 15:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to step away and stay away until u find someone else or until she comes after you. Then you will know for sure that she is serious about you. The problem is that you never know how it will take her. Women cry sometimes when they know what you are saying is the truth.
2007-01-18 15:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by yoka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, this girl doesn't love you at all. She just gets off on you loving her. She only pulls you in long enough to assure herself that you still love her; then she pushes you back again. You would be wise to walk away from this one.
2007-01-18 15:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend was in the ame situation your in now. no matter what way you pick things will be hard. People don't ever really change. I think the best thing for you is to move on w. your life as hard as it sounds. Just be around the people that love you and they will make you feel better.
...good luck
2007-01-18 15:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by KatieLynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋