further to my last 2 postings, I recieved a phone call today from him. He said that he was told to phone by his sister. My reply was :- You didnt really want to speak to me, you have made it quuite clear by your behaviour that you dont want to be in a relationship with me, so your leash is cut. You've got what you wanted. Have I done the right thing? Wish I never pick up the phone now. I was getting stronger over the past days with the help of people on here, now I feel I have knocked myself back down.
2007-01-18 06:47:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
UPDATE;- he has just txt saying, he has had alot on his mind with all thats happened, he never said it was ending. Think being assertive has put the ball in my court? But my strengh has only come from everyone on here.
2007-01-18 07:10:52 · update #1
Hi honey,
Its me again,
You've got him rattled already,
Now start the having fun,
You mustn't call him now as you've had your say,
Now what do you want to do ???
You haven't knocked yourself back down at all, but you will if you back down from that,
Let him have some space to think now,
He has to be able to pull away from you in order to return,
The excuse, oh well his parents have just died shouldn't feature in this, he should be leaning on you for advise and support,
My god, isn't he a grown up, people can't just run away as and when they please.
Do you really want to be with a man who phones you cos his sister tells him to,
Or do you want a man to phone you cos he misses you and wants to hear your voice,
I now it's very hard and men take advantage sometimes cos we really do love them,
But sometimes you have to love yourself more first.
Lots of luck
2007-01-18 09:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm quite sorry to hearken to all of this - it truly is so unhappy. To me it looks that he's having an affair. he's making out that you're accountable for inspite of is going incorrect and this can both be because of guilt or because he doesn't opt for to lose the homestead etc. i'm positive you adore him dearly, yet you desperately favor to back off. have no longer some thing to do with him and play the wounded celebration. If he contacts you, tell him that you're literally not prepared to search for suggestion from with him except he can grant you with a proper reason behind his behaviour. If the worst does ensue then you definitely will be innocent.
2016-11-25 01:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand how you feel.Your over there trying to get strong in all of sudden you hear his voice. And I know that just brought you down. Trust me out of experience what you said was not the right thing to do for YOU. Who cares about him. He deserve every bad remark you tell him. But here's the thing it's not about him, its about you getting better. And if your telling his sister to call you and he does in you bad mark him. He not going to call when you really need him to. But I no that feeling when you just want to tell him something. You did knocked yourself back down. But you know what dust yourself off in get back up. It's a part of healing. Your doing OK. Why don't you read some self help books Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has a few good ones. One is ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives. And God is the best healer.
2007-01-18 07:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Way to go honey you told him!! Girl power!! You have so not knocked yourself back down you just asserted yourself. Don't stand for that behaviour from him, you deserve more. Now watch him come a runnin if he doesn't then he ain't worth sh*t xx
2007-01-18 07:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. You are fine when you dont see him or talk to him, but as soon as you hear from him everything you thought of telling him its down to the drain. You did the right thing you cant keep waiting for him to decide if he wants to be w you or not, you need to move on be strong and show him that you are fine!!! God luck
2007-01-18 06:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is what he wanted, you did the right thing. Even if you're not ready for it, you don't need to settle for being with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
Don't worry about feeling like you've slipped. Remember, progress is often, two steps forward, one step backward, two steps forward...Eventually you will look back and see you made the correct choice. Stick to it.
2007-01-18 06:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Know how you feel babe, in the same boat,but i have to speak to him because kids are involved,change your Numbers and move on.
Good luck for the future and stay strong.
There is someone out there that deserves your love xxxx
2007-01-18 07:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by live life 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Poor Guy. He has alot on his mind. Both his parents have just died. Told you it was nothing to do with ending a relationship. He's just clinging on to his sister as she's the last bit he has of his parents.
I think it's awful that you gave him extra grief to deal with. What on earth is he going to think now. 'Well I just lost my parents and my wife is miserable. I'm miserable'. I'd be very careful if I was you. No wonder his sister is critical of you if you can do this to him at such a dreadful time. Depression can lead to suicide in vulnerable people. Please think of him and his sister.
2007-01-18 07:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Isabelle 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
read the three posts and this sounds fairly familiar.... I think you have done the right thing you just need to move on with your life and get over him.
2007-01-19 00:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't back down. You are doing what you think is right. He should have alot more respect for you than it appears. Be strong.
2007-01-18 06:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋