Marriage and Commitment?

Question

I have seen many questions relating to whether remaining commited to a marriage is important, and the guilt associated with infidelity.

Living the double edged sword seems to be accepted rather than not. I am interested in seeing other peoples concept of what marriage should be.

Please define marriage for me, and the purpose of it.

I don't want a dictionary defination, but more of the personal view of both men and women, and their concept of the entire unity.

Answer 1

Been with the same person for 15yrs and married 10. I feel that marriage is about friendship and team work. I same team work cause you both have to work at it. You both have to be willing to put your part into it. It is also about respect. Respect of indifferences. Appreciating each others qualities and weaknesses. Being willing to work through them without resentment later. Never put false expectations on the person. Go in knowing each others weaknesses and strengths. If each others strengths can help with each others weaknesses, it will be great. Then you must have honesty and openess. You should be able to discuss with each other your pains, your hurts, concearns without being laughed out, or not taken seriously... This means communication is a biggy! Marriage is about committment. Today marriages have no value or moral principle. People get in them with all the wrong ideas. Love each other for your own individuality, as well as loving each other for what bringing out the best in each other! Marriage is about devotion, committment, loyality, communication and most of all respect!

Answer 2

Marriage is two separate people with separate and different backgrounds. It is bringing these two people together who are willing to bring together thier strengths and weaknesses and individuals to make one union. This will take a lot of trust, commitment and most of all time. It is not an overnight thing as most people want to believe. It is a process and takes time to learn each other. The problem most people have is that they don't take the time learn each other, they expect it to be automatic once they say "I do". Marriage is not a wedding but a relationship, a constant building relationship. The best advise on marriage is in the Bible. If you want to know how and why it was created the bible is the best answer. I try to live my life and marriage according to the bible. Any and everything worth having is difficult, but in the end the bottom line is well worth it. This is my advice after 24 years of marriage and I am still learning. Thats the great thing about marriage it is a never ending story. "Your Story" "Your Love Story" I hope this helps you!!!!

Answer 3

Marriage has many aspects. One is financial. I believe that once a child is born, the wife has the right to spend time away from work and raise her child for a few years. Children left to be raised by a daycare is a no-no. If a family is capable of having the wife stay at home, even if it has to sacrafice some, then it should. The husband's duty to is to provide for the family while the wife's duty is to nurture the family and keep it running smoothly.

In a marriage, there should be exclusiveness. That means no kissing, touching in a sexual nature, having sex with, or having sexy conversations with a person outside of the marriage.

Once a couple has children, divorce is not a possibility until the children at 18.

Ultimately, marriage should strive for a child.

Marriage is sexual in nature and there should be none of this "We haven't had sex for years" nonsense. Nor should there be sleeping in seperate beds.

Answer 4

Marriage should be a like a partnership. You are both interested in being successful in all aspects of life. So, if you had a business partner, would you be forthright in all of your business ideas and make decisions together? When it comes to the personal side, I feel that two people need to have alone time....not necessarily every week, but once in a while, to help keep things in perspective. That in a nutshell is what I think it should be like.

Answer 5

Marriage is two people living and working as a team towards a common goal of security, happiness, and support.
My wife is my best friend and it is always me and her against the world. My first concern is her and her concern is me.
We have an understanding that we can have occasional sex outside of marriage as long as protection is used and we do not allow the other to ever know about it. This has worked well for over 20 years. I have had only a few extras over that time and I would assume she has also.

Answer 6

My husband and I have been married almost 18 years, and it has gotten better and better each year! Neither or us would even "think" of having an affair, and those of you who truly believe in fidelity and have a good marriage know that this is totally possible - despite the cynics.
We live our marriage vows everyday. We are true to one another, honest to a fault, have tons of fun and laughter in our home, are close to our families, share absolutely everything and all of each other to the other. We live in one another's skin, metaphorically.
Marriage to us meant being linked with someone forever. The person you want to have a family with and share your life with forever. The real forever, not just "until". He is there to catch me when I fall, and I am there for him. One learns better how to do that after some time together, because you grow together and learn more about one another. We are one another's best friends, and our personal business doesn't leave our home. No one comes before our family. We are of a similar ethnic background, one that is intimately tied to our religion, values and morals. That was important to us, and lives in our marriage.
Our marriage lives and breathes; it ebbs and flows. There have been horrendous, horrible rocky times for us, financially and personally. Our commitment saw us through those times; there was not even the thought of breaking our ties with one another. After we were married a while, my husband was talking with other guys he worked with who thought they would miss the freedom of the single life if they got married. When he got home and talked to me about it, he said he felt the most freedom ONCE he got married - to be himself and to live his best life.
Marriage means still keeping your individuality - it would be easy to become dependent upon the other, but it keeps the marriage fresh and new to still keep your own personality and characteristics that make you, you.
The best thing about our marriage is that my husband calls me his LIFE, not his wife. Love endures....

Answer 7

Marriage SHOULD be a partnership, continued in the realm of the courtship. Thus love, respect, communication, and seeing to each others comfort should be the continued goal of both partners. The simple problem is either couples do NOT know each other well enough.......not interested in putting forth any effort for combined success.......OR they both relax TOO much, and take each other for granted.

Answer 8

My view on marriage is simple. We both have experienced other relationships and have found each other through that journey. We see that it can't get any better than what we have now. This man is my friend we like each other as well as love and respect each other. It is built just on lust or physical attraction. I genuine get something from this man and he as well. We only want to share these feeling and life experiences with each other. I want to to be in a committed relationship.

Answer 9

Marrige in my opinion should be a partnership where both partners work for the good of the family. The purpose of marriage? That depends on the couple who are married.

Answer 10

Marriage is the bonding of two people into one. It's the
sharing , the love, the honesty, the understanding, the
communication, the support, of one to the other that will
make the marriage strong and lasting. I will be celebrat-
ing my 20th anniversary on FEB 14th, and because of all
the above I know I will be celebrating many more to come.