I've never really had any friends and now I kinda have the chance to make some but I don't know how. is it possible that this is just because I'm inexperience? Is this common? Is there any way to catch up on 18 years of social interaction really quickly?
2007-01-18 06:22:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The thing is I have people that I kinda am friends with, I just never get to hang out with them. Also, they have all already been friends so long that most of the time I have no idea who they are talking about.
2007-01-18 07:17:07 · update #1
being socially inexperienced is definately very common. dont worry you're not the only one out there. i have a friend who had this exact problem, until she met me and the rest of the group. you need to find people look comfortable to be around with [yes, judge a book by it's cover.] and start a small conversation, and if they like you then you'll be accepted in no time at all. the key is to be confident in yourself and hold your head high. dont let what others think of you bother your self esteem. just go out there and do it!
2007-01-18 06:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I was too. I tried volunteering, and eventually ended up in positions where I needed to be social ("You're off kitchen duty for now -- we need a new discussion leader starting next week"). I'd like to recommend this book; it helped me (despite what you might think of the author): "How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere: The Secrets of Good Communication", by Larry King. It's old enough that you can get it at the library.
Have a hobby? Start by talking with someone you share an interest with.
Another suggestion: Have at least 3 answers to "What's new?" every day that you think are worthy of making conversation (the fact that you're re-inventing your social skills can be one of the answers).
2007-01-18 06:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by xwdguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HDK, generally, everybody starts out like that. Some of us are more adept at making friends than others, but we all start out the same. Just be friendly and open minded, smile alot and be receptive to trying new things. and you will be fine. Don't worry about catching up, thats in the past. I used to be very shy, in fact i'm still like that a bit. If you'd like a net friend, feel free to email me.
2007-01-18 06:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you will be fine.If you are standing next to a person and start talking about something you know about that's the way to start talking and make friends that way.I was that way for a long time.I know it's hard at first but have confidence
2007-01-18 06:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just overcome your shyness, break yourself free. You're anti-social, that's all. You just have to want to make friends. So, you have to get out of your shell. And be open, you know... talk freely without getting uncomfortable. Join in on their choice of convo topics. Talking freely is the beginning. Then they'll start to ask you to hang out with them. And before you know it, you guys will be friends! :]
2007-01-18 06:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible and no their is no way to gain exp in it fast. just take a deep breath and do your best. Friends are best and easiest to find in social groups dealing in area you have an interest in. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-18 06:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's really all about confidence and loving yourself first. it sounds to me like you're overthinking it. if you just dive right in and meet people, it will come naturally, you can't force things like this. you aren't going to be friends with everyone you meet. so some interactions will be horrible, some just ok, and some will change your life :) good luck!
2007-01-18 06:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to be experienced, but more out going. Just be yourself and be friendly. You have to be willing to go out and have a good time with people you want to be friends with. You'll do great....no experience necessary.
2007-01-18 06:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Example a:
"Hey, nice shoes. Where'd you get them?"
"George's. You really like them?"
"Oh, yeah. Where's is George's?"
"Oh, right down there by Chili's. See?"
"Oooh I love Chili's. Want to tag along?"
"Sure!"
Like this, only... more nervous. You'll get used to it. I promise.
2007-01-18 06:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to put yourself out there like everyone else.
2007-01-18 06:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by lc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋