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I am going on 10 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My husband and I have talked a lot about what we would do if there was something wrong with the baby.

Would you abort your baby due to a medical problem?

What about if the baby has down syndrome, is a conjoined twin, is missing limbs, would die at birth, etc?

What is your opinion on this matter?

I am not talking about late term abortions, I am talking about an abortion done fairly early in the pregnancy as soon as a problem is detected.

2007-01-18 06:19:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

This is reality, if you don't like the question then you don't have to answer it. This is a question for the opinions of others. Not everyone thinks the same. Get over yourself.

2007-01-18 06:26:20 · update #1

20 answers

Everyone is born with imperfections. Some are more serious than others. I have a special needs child, but she is the most precious thing in my life. I couldn't imagine life without her. She's the funniest person I know. Her disabilities were caused through negligence.

Babies with disabilities are not "throw-aways". Just because things don't happen the way you plan them should never be a reason to give up any life. We don't have that right, IMO.

2007-01-18 06:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7 0

I'm 20wks and passed on all the tests to find out about baby medical problems. I don't think that I could do it b/c it would haunt me but more so I think I'm capable of taking care of a "special" child. Special is definitely what they would be. Sometimes they can teach you more about life than you could have possibly ever imagined learning on your own. Of course I don't wish for my child to have any medical issues but if I was blessed with one of these special children I am sure it is for a reason. I know it would be hard and I'd probably cry a lot and feel sorry for it but I positive it would make me a stronger person as well as the people the child would encounter. So I passed on finding out medical reasons because if there is something wrong with my baby worrying now won't get me anywhere and I can prepare myself when the time comes. I've met a couple special children and they really are miracles but it definitely wouldn't be an easy life for the family. Good luck in making your decision and really it is to each his own, so you would have to do what would be best for you, not what others tell you.

2007-01-18 06:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by singinangel19 1 · 5 0

Well, I am just assuming you didn't use a means of birth control and for that, you are an idiot. Also, why the hell are you allowing your mom to wash your babies clothes, make his bottles, do the dishes ect AND mooching off of her? GROW UP! and $175 a month and you complaining about financial strain? Wow, seriously , your a piece of work. My suggestions to you are : 1) Kick your deadbeat bf OUT. He doesn't sound like a good father anyway and I feel very sorry for your current son for having parents like you two 2) Start helping your mom out with YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES! Get a job and help out more financially , you can get help with childcare 3) Put the baby your pregnant with up for adoption. Killing it is not your only option. It shouldn't even be a thought to you at all. There is no reason why you can't be pregnant with it and then give it to a loving family. Its pure selfishness any other way. Seriously, take a hard look at yourself and your life and CHANGE.

2016-05-24 03:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First off, I'm pro-life, so no. But aside from that, even if I were pro-choice I don't think I would because the testing isn't 100%. They even tell you that. There are a lot of false positives on those tests. Plus, with the multitude of medical advances and breakthroughs happening every day, there could be a cure right around the corner! Why would anyone abort a conjoined twin? Twins are successfully seperated quite frequently. Anyway, just my humble opinion.

2007-01-18 06:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 5 1

Personally I would not abort! * Unless what ever was wrong would most definitely result in the babies death AND mine!

A friend of mine found out fairly early that there was a major problem with her baby (I think trisomy 18, but not sure!) They gave her the option of abortion. But because of her convictions & strong faith in God. She could not go through with it! They told her she would probably miscarry at around 5 months anyway, but she waited & prayed. 5 months came & went, & no miscarriage. Finally she had made it the 40 weeks, went into labor & delivered her baby (serious complications and all) SHe was able to spend 45 min. with her daughter Abigail before she passed. She doesn't regret not aborting one day. They planted a tree, a pink flowering kind...and underneath they burried her ashes! Every thime she goes with her other kids...(including one she adopted after abigails passing) they can visit the tree, & think of the special time they had with her, however short!

2007-01-18 06:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 4 0

Personally, I would not. My son has Down syndrome and we made a decision long before I was even pregnant that we simply could not kill our baby. And thank goodness...our son is wonderful and has been such a blessing to our family and to all those who know him. Quite honestly, I do not think that there is anything "wrong" with him at all. Will he faces challenges? Sure, all kids face challenges of some sort, but that's what parents are for...to raise our children with confidence and poise and the ability to face challenges head on.

2007-01-18 09:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Smom 4 · 1 0

VERY difficult question. I am 18 weeks and came back as high risk of Down's Syndrome, so I am having an amnio tomorrow. It has certainly crossed our minds - what will we do if the test comes back positive? When I first became pregnant we discussed it and talked about the option of terminating the pregnancy if there were issues, but now that I am actually pregnant and feel so bonded with this baby already, it has become a much harder decision. I am praying that I won't have to make that decision - hopefully the results will come back fine, but there is always that chance. I think it is tough decision and people will definitely judge you if you make a choice they would not agree with, but it is your (and your husband's) life and you have to do what would be best for you. Sometimes it is not fair to bring a child into this world to face such problems, but then again, sometimes you look at children (and their families) who have these problems and have learned to overcome them and live happy lives, and you think, who am I to play god and decide that this child would be better off not being brought into this world?

If you ever are faced with this awful decision to make, seek counseling before acting - it is not a decision to take lightly, for you will suffer the consequenses of your decision for the rest of your life no matter which path you take.

Best of luck to you, and please say a prayer for me!

2007-01-18 06:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by mommy2be 2 · 2 2

No I wouldn't because I have a child with a heart defect. I found out very early in that my baby had a heart defect. The doctor I was seeing kept pressing us to chose to terminate the pregnancy & I told him to go to hell with that idea & found another doctor. She was born, had her repair surgury when she was 3 days old (will need at least 2 more in her lifetime for upkeep of the repair) and she will be 11 months this coming Sunday. God made her special and chose us to be her parents because He knew that we would do everything we can for her. Yes we have had some rough times dealing with her condition and the complacations, but to look at her smiling face... it's worth it. She truly is a gift from God.

2007-01-18 17:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by impala_girl_64 3 · 2 0

I am going to say just because of the terrible experience I had when I was about 10 weeks along my doctor told me there was problems with the baby and we should consider aborting I was leaving th next day for a 10 day vacation he told me to think about it and decide when I returned. when I got back my doctor called me and told me there was a mistake and she was born healthy and happy I believe that vacation saved my daugther otherwise we would have done something sooner.

2007-01-18 07:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Krista W 2 · 2 0

No. Even if I was told my baby would come out green and have antennas, I would not abort it. Medical testing and all is pretty acurate but I know tons of cases where they have been wrong and well..that little percentage is enough for me.

2007-01-18 06:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by busemomme 5 · 4 0

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