I was fine up until a couple months ago..things have increasingly gotten more overwhelming at times and the baby's cries stress me out so quickly....she is 5 months old now....the first month was like a dream...I actually don't know how I got through it...I also have a 3 year old and lately I have no patience for him, I don't like him touching me and if the baby's crying I just want him to be quiet and go away....I love my children....and I have seen the doctor a few times and am going for counselling and even low doses of prozac....am I going to make it past this hump or is this what my life is going to be like now????
2007-01-18 06:17:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
PPD does not have to happen right after baby is born.
It is overwhelming to have small children and be so tired. You will get through this. The best part is you are seeking help and you are aware of how you feel.
I have not personally had PPD but a friend of mine has. Just remember it WILL get better. Try to get out and also enjoy the day with your children.
Stay strong. Let people help or enlist help if you can. If things get so bad and you think you might hurt your kids just give yourself a time out for a minute or so. Just try to relax (as a mum of 2 I know that is easier said than done..) for a moment before you tend to your babes.
Take care of yourself. Good luck! You can and will get past this!
2007-01-18 06:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I experienced the same thing when I had twins and I also had a 3 yr. old at the same time. It was very overwhelming and i didn't like anybody or even myself at times. I did see a doctor and he suggested medicine but I didn't want to be dependent on it, so I got a support group together (close friends) and explained to them what I was going through and asked if they would help me buy giving me breaks from the kids. It started out they would keep them the whole weekend and as I got better they would come to get them less often. That was 8 years ago and now I'm ready to start over again, I'm planning to get pregnant this year. So it does get better you just have to find what will work for you. Don't continue to feel this way. God bless
2007-01-18 06:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 8 year old and a 5 year old. You will be fine. It seems like as soon as you get to the end of your rope with one stage, it's over. I suggest that you take more time out to pamper yourself with baths, books, exercise or whatever relaxes you. Kids are the focus of your life right now, but to be an effective parent you have to think about your own health as well. Have a friend or relative watch the kids for the day and take a break. I like to sit and listen to the quiet at a bookstore. Whatever you do, if you think that your feelings are unbearable get help now. there is a difference between stress and breakdown. If you are approaching the breakdown point get help. Otherwise enjoy the stage you are in and failing that, look forward to the next stages. It does definately change all the time.
Good luck. If you need help, get it. Don't feel silly about asking for help. Everyone has different tolerance levels. Don't get past yours.
2007-01-18 06:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of 4 little ones. ( 8,4,2 years, and 6 month old.) I went threw ppd with my second child severe mood swings and some of the other feelings. Medication helped it after my 3rd child's birth I was put on preventative medicine and now with my fourth I am having lots of the same feelings. Like how do I get out of here and get away how do i make the kids listen and behave and leave me alone. well That's not what I really want so I am making a doctor apt. this week. Just keep telling your doctor about symptoms and even give doc. a journal of feelings and things that happen or thoughts so they can hep you work this out. It does get better this is from a prior and present ppd sufferer. Hope you feel better soon just remember you will get trough this.
2007-01-18 06:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by four2love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a new baby is overwhelming in the beginning and is even more overwhelming if you have another child but just breathe. Post partum can come at anytime and it could be that or it could be just getting adjusted to everything...not to mention the lack of sleep! Your body goes through a lot from conception to after the birth. No baby, then the baby, then after the baby. It's all a big change for your body, your hormones, your mind...I wish you well!
2007-01-18 06:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by busemomme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely stay in contact with your doctor and stay on your med's. You will make it past this hump - sometimes we have no control over the after affects of pregnancy and you very well could be suffering from post-partum depression. There is nothing wrong with asking for help, taking med's and going through counseling...why should we be miserable when there is help out there!
Kudos to you for taking control of the situation and know that it does get better!!!!
2007-01-18 06:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every mom gets overwhelmed. I'd say its time to check your diet, your level of exercise, (chasing the kids around all day every day doesnt count, you body need something different).
Also, its time to start simplifying things. And start taking breaks. The not wanting to be touched means you're getting too much stimulation right now. Call in the grandparents and friends and the dad, and get out for an hour a couple times a week. Take a jog or go out some where.
Also, make sure you're getting enough sunlight. Lack of light will screw with your chemicals.
2007-01-18 06:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand what your going through, I'm a first time SAHM with a 4mo old son. You will make it past this hump even though it's hard to believe. I haven't got past it yet. But I believe I will because I really want things to change even though it's so hard to change. The hardest part of being in a rut is to get out of it. Someone told me that and it really rang true. I desperately want to be happy in all aspects of my life and my son deserves a happy mom. Therefore I just started taking baby steps to making things better.Your doing all the right things but it's just going to take some time.
2007-01-18 06:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by hopewishdream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it will get better, but may take some time and maybe even a higher dosage of medication, or more therapy to help you through it....if you find your self overly stressed you need to call a friend, husband, mom, or someone that you can talk to...or even to watch the baby and three year old-so that you can have some time for yourself...and some time to unwind. It's hard being a mom!
2007-01-18 06:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not how your life is going to be. Keep going to the doc and taking your meds and it will work itself out. Sorry you are going thru this but it will get better. The baby will get older and cry less and be more fun. Your three year old will learn to help out more and bug less and itll be ok!!!
2007-01-18 08:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋