Oh! God someone needs to talk me down. I need talked down before I go off.?

Question

Okay my mom and her husband are having issues and he invitied one of his girl co workers over and asked me not to tell my mom. I Told him not too put me in that position. But he has let her come over anyway. She is her now and i'm really close to fliping out. So someone talk me down. Please I may do something I regret.

Answer 1

First if you mom and her husband are having issues, he is being entirely disrespectful of your mom by bringing another woman into the house. If he had nothing to hide, he would not ask you to hide it for him. You are right to be about to flip out, but be careful it could just be innocent though his actions speak otherwise. She is YOUR mom. YOUR mom would most likely rather hear it from you in the beginning than to know you have known for sometime and did not tell her. Your Step-Dad is completely out of line and something does need to be said. Perhaps you should leave the house and cool off and later tell your mom that he asked you to do something that has made you uncomfortable and that you don't appreciate the situation he has placed you in. Tell her you don't want to add to their issues but as her daughter, you feel she has a right to know. If it were your boyfriend, or husband and your mother came over and found another woman in your home and your husband/boyfriend asked her not to mention it, how would you feel knowing she knew something like that and you were unaware of it. I think you would be quite upset with your mom for not telling you. Call your mom and tell her she is needed at home, if she can't leave, tell her you need to discuss something extremely important with her ALONE and the two of you go for coffee or somewhere the two of you can discuss this.

Answer 2

Find a camera and go outside and take a picture of her car in the driveway, complete with license number. Then see if you can sneak a picture of them. Do not put yourself in a situation where you are not SAFE from your step dad! He might hurt you physically. After taking the pictures, go to a neighbor's house and call your mother. If you live too far from anyone to walk away, wait until your Mom get's home and tell her in front of him. Why is that woman there? Is he having an affair with her, or is he planning a surprise party for mom with a caterer or something like that? I doubt it. If that were the case then he would have let you in on the secret instead of just asking you not to tell her. Tread carefully! Get evidence!

Answer 3

Your mom's new husband is an adult. He needs to be adult enough to accept the consequences. This was your home before he came into the picture (not the particular house per se, but yeah), so it is your right if you wish to tell your mom. Keep in mind that she will be hurt, but he knows that. Otherwise he would never have asked you to keep a secret. He knows better. In the interest of your mother, perhaps she'd be better off with someone else if he's so consumed with going behind her back.

If I were you, at this point, I'd probably tell my mom. The trick is HOW you tell her, because I know it's not easy for you now, and it will be tough to talk over with her.

Answer 4

Tell him to get out and take that tramp with him right NOW or you are calling the Police.
Discreetly call your Mom.
Tell her she needs to come home, but dont tell her what is going on.
She could get into a car accident.
If he is still there when your Mom arrives, hopefully she will throw both of them out.

You will have to be strong for your mother.
Once she gets rid of this Sicko, make sure she never lets him back in again.
Tell her you are afraid of being alone with him, and he can never be trusted again. Tell her neither one of you are safe with a loser like this.

She needs to know the truth, he has no respect for you or your mother, if he could have the audacity to bring some other woman in your house.

Dont do anything you will regret.
It is not worth it.
This guy is a piece of ****.

Answer 5

what kind of asshole is he to put you in that kind of position in the first place. phone your mom tell her she needs to come home right away. she has a marriage problem to adress. or do the sneaky thing and take pictures get them to your mom. dont sit on this this is not right. your dad needs to be a man and fess up.
personally i would get the pictures not let hem jor the girlfriend know. then i would flip out and tell the both of them exactly how i feel there ******* with your life also. oh i wish i was ther with you right know. im 40 and i would not let this slide at all the women wouldnt know what the hell hit her (figure if speech,)do not get phsical with her or the man) find out if co worker has a husband let him know that she is having a affaair with someone else.. destroy her life.
but really it is up to your mom to take action so let her know asap. get on the phone.

Answer 6

This is a trerrible position to be in! Just stop and think for a moment. I would tell my mom. I'm assuming he's not your natural father? That would make it easier for me. Do you have a cam-corder in the house? See if you can get proof of her being there. Or just pick up the phone and call your mom. But don't blow up do it calmly. I think you should be looking out for your mom and this is horrible that he is doing this in her own house. Just remember, calm is better and think about how you want to do it.

Answer 7

I'm sorry but I really hate this inequality where people think that a man should never hit a woman but a woman is allowed to hit a man with impunity. I think that noone should ever be allowed to hit anyone ever. She HIT you, and you really could get her reported for assault, but I know you didn't and you wouldn't, because men just put up with it. On the other hand, you retaliated, and what you did was called retaliatory violence, which isn't right either, but it was the only way you could stop her. She also put your little brother in a dangerous position, and you have to think about that. Do you REALLY want to be with someone who only cared about their perceived anger, and didn't even care that they endangered a young boy?

Answer 8

Ok.. You are right to be angry and upset with your dad for asking you to be an "accomplice" in something you feel is inappropriate. I think your dad was wrong to ask this of you as well as wrong to ask this woman over. She may be a friend, however this isn't going to make matters any better if he is deceitful.
First... Tell him how you feel and that you will be telling your mother.
Second... Perhaps your dad is trying to get some perspective from a woman's standpoint (this may be the case)... So be open to that, however you shouldn't be in a position to be asked to lie to your mother.
Good luck my dear! :)

Answer 9

i would snap if i were you! let that woman know that your mom wouldn't appreciate her being there with her husband like that! As for your mom's husband, he sounds low down. I would snap on him too! Better yet, call your mom and tell her she needs to come home right now, don't tell her why, but make it sound like an emergency. then get out the camera and let the action begin!

Answer 10

easy call your mom "i'm assuming she's at work" and take pictures you don't need to be put in that situation because when the truth comes out you'll be put in the situation of "well she knew and why didn't you tell me anything about it" so rather then have a broken trust issue with your mother get it out in the open righ tnow. Hell if you have a camera take pictures as well get all the proof you need.