What thought processes do women use to solve problems and make decisions?

Question

As a guy, I always try to reason everything out logically and take it to it's logical conclusion. I tend to look at problems and make decisions in a "technique" based way... Do women use different thought processes?

Response to comment posted by S.B. ??

Sorry for asking an honest question about women's thought processes so that I can better understand their communication (note the sarcasm).

Answer 1

Wow - you really touched some nerves with this question!! I can't help but smile when I read your question, Earl. I appreciate your sincerity in making this plea for understanding and as a woman, I must say, I am touched.

Really, I think we all use different thought proccesses, regardless of our gender. We all use a combination of factors when faced with decisions, some without our even knowing it. I am sure you believe that your feelings don't factor into any decision you make, but you probably also don't have a lot of insight into your own feelings so - poof! You just don't have them and then you don't have to figure them out. Believe me, Earl, they influence every decision you make - to the extent that you are unaware of them, they are moving you around like a marionette.

I can't tell you about ALL women but I can tell you how I make decisions. I keep it as simple as possible. I own what's mine. I don't make excuses. I follow the adage "never complain, never explain". I believe blood is thicker than water. And I believe I am here by the grace of god. I remember these things every single day and everything, easy or hard, simple or complex, joyful or heartwrenching, everything falls into place.

I wish you lots of happiness!

Answer 2

Biologically we are wired different. Then you take into effect that most of the time boys and girls are treated differently from birth. Also, you have a lot of the old double standards that come into play as well in the raising of a child which causes the children to view themselves in different ways. Then when we get old enough to think and decide for ourselves we get overwhelmed with all of the media attention that forces women to be paranoid about the way the look at themselves and at the world, and then men only reinforce what the media is telling them. Pretty much we are screwed from the start.

Answer 3

I have shared your underlying frustration and have done a bit of reading. If you check out the Myers-Briggs Personality typing, you will see that one of the four aspects of personality is how one processes life, by thinking or feeling. This is the most gender-related aspect. More men process life as you and I do. Most women process life by their feelings. That is not to say that this is 100% true all the time, nor is it to say that women do not use their heads. We men are a bit more problem-solving oriented. Women need to verbalize how they are feeling, so we men are called to be good listeners and to ask about how she feels on things, being ready to communicate understanding. Knowing that someone understands can be much of what a woman wants in her frustrations.
Women reading this are welcome to add to my observations or correct them. (as if I needed to invite that..... ;-) )

Answer 4

its like a balancing scale of reason and emoitions

the make decisions based on reasons as long as it is not an emoitional issue, the more emoitional the issue the more decisions are based on how good it makes them feel rather than how reasonable the answer is.

Answer 5

Your "technique" appears to be a blend of misogyny and misology. I can say that my approach to problem solving and decision making differs from your own. Further discussion would be pointless.

Answer 6

Not really. We women use logic as well, we also factor in emotional issues that most men do not concern themselves with.

Answer 7

women are clueless idiots who don't really have a grasp of reality - they're just "breeders"