hubby and I have problems could he?

Question

Yeah I have caused a lot of probs in our marriage!
He works a lot of hours! Only brings home like 200 and he said they messed up his hours! The other night we were goin to bed, he said stuff has to change I dont know how long we can keep goin down this path! He hasnt been wanting intercourse from me! He's never lied to me about anything! But all the hours he's been workin and only bringing 200 on this past paycheck! Does this mean he's cheating on me? Should I have someone follow him one day and see exactly where he's goin! He really hasnt talked to me much either! He just says whatever!
I am not sure what to think here! Is he cheating? He has changed this past few weeks! use to have intercourse a lot now it's almost nothing! whats goin on here?

oh this is the first check that he's brought home like that, sorry should have clarified that to begin with! I do work I am a stay at home mom! House is super clean, dinner always here when he gets home! could it be my fault, I have to fight with addictions, behind his back, lying about addiction! could that all be the reason why he's acting the way he is!

Oh I no longer have an addiction! took care of the problem!

Answer 1

all of the signs are there ,,,,,if he is working alot of so called hours and not bringing home any money,,,then yes he probably is cheating....usually when you get that feeling follow your instinct...

Answer 2

Ok. First of all, take a deep breath. One of the first things you can do, is, well, next time he claims that they "messed up" his hours, simply say "can I take a look at your pay stub?" But, say it in a very calm & non-suspecious way. If he says he lost it, then, I'm sure his HR can get him a copy. Also, ask him when they plan on fixing his pay.
Next, with the intercourse topic. Have you brought this up to him, in a non-combative way? If he claims he's stressed, plan a nice "date night" type of thing & have a cozy & romantic night, just the 2 of you.
Now, for your suspecions. If he totally refuses to let you see his pay stub and still doesn't respond to you rtying to get romantic, have you tried snooping around & looking in his dresser or his car? I could be wrong, but, I assume you do his laundry. Does it ever smell like perfume or some other type of cologne that he doesn't wear around you? When he comes home from work, does he jump right in the shower? If so, why don't you try to put the moves on him before he can.........&, one any day that you may be extra suspecious as to where he's been, before he jumps in the shower, seductively take down his pants & go down on him. Now, I know you may be thinking, "What the heck ??!!? " Well, if he was intimate with someone before he got home, you'd be able to smell that distinct smell, now, wouldn't you?!? ( unless he pulls a "Motley Crue move" & rubs burritos on his crotch before soming home & if he does, then you can ask him why his member smells/tastes like that.
What about his cell phone? Do you share a plan, or have seperate one's ? Even if you have seperate one's , if you are the one who pays the bills (ie writes out the checks ) , then , you can tell him taht you had to open up his so that you could pay it on time to avoid a late charge. If you do not find anything suspecious in the car (like condoms) & his phone bill is in the clear , then you have a tough decision to make b/c then it sounds like he's doing nothing wrong...... & , you don't want to have someone follow him (& have him potentially find that out) if he's not doing anything wrong.
Although it does seem suspicious that he's working so much, you should first see what you can find out on your own, by snooping. before bringing ing a 3rd party, because, if you are wrong, then that will only make him act more distant towards you.

Answer 3

If i were you id wait till the next pay period. If they screwed up this check at his job the next one should be fairly large. If its not than i would consider the possiblity hes cheating. If the check is large he may just be too tired to argue or be physical. Id give him the benfit of the doubt i mean you love him so if you start following him or accuse him of lying and hes not. It will just put a dent in a already bad time. I hope the best for you.

Ps. if the dude is cheatin leave you can do better than that but like i said give it some time at least a week i mean the next pay check should let ya know what your wondering about!

Answer 4

He could also be doing drugs or gambling and loosing alot of money that way, but he probably is cheating. Pay a surprise visit to his job during the hours you think he might be cheating. Call and ask to speak to him during those hours. Then if he isn't there, but says he was when you call him on it you'll know he's lieing. If you do the laundry, check his pockets for reciepts, phone numbers, matchbooks w/ bar names on them. Check his car one morning while he's still sleeping for the same things. Look for his pay stubs. And yes, check his cell phone if he has one. Get *69 on you home phone (or whatever callback is where you are) so when you hear him having a secretive call you can call back the last # dialed, or call back the last person who called. If he won't communicate with you honestly then you have no choice but to play detective.

Answer 5

You are a grown you can easily see whats happening if not you are blind he is clearly cheating on you.
But i wish you conform this before takeing any step some time i mean only 0.001% times it may be true that he got cheated of hours at work other than that you are a mature women so i think u can understand sorry for you but its fact so open up eyes!!!!

Nice thing he is atleast comeing back home after long hours of work or ?????!!!

Answer 6

dont know if hes cheating sounds like it but he might just be tired of something..

1.Do you/have you accused him of cheating?
2.Do you nag instead of asking or talking?
3.Do you get people involved?
4.What did you do to push him away?

now im not saying its your fault or that the way hes behaving is right but you have to understang your self before you start wondering about other people.. i dont think you should have anyone following him thats just wrong.. just give it time and why not confront him about it


i like this song lol

Let me be patient let me be kind
Make me unselfish without being blind
Though I may suffer I'll envy it not
And endure what comes

I'll never be jealous
And I won't be too proud
Cause love is not boastful
Oooh and love is not loud
Everything's gonna be alright

Now I may have wisdom and knowledge on Earth
But if I speak wrong then what is it worth?
See what we now know is nothing compared
to the love that was shown when our lives were spared

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU I KNOW THAT DOUBT IS THE UGLIEST AND MOST PAINFULL FEELING WHEN ONE IS IN LOVE I HOPE ALL GOES WELL AND SOMETHING GOOD COMES OUT OF THIS GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

First of all how are you living on $200 dollars? Tell him to come clean about what is going on or you are moving out. Maybe he is stressed at work or there is someohter reason but ask him and see if he will give you the honest answer. If he knows that you are serious about leaving he may open up and tell the truth. Good luck.

Answer 8

All women have what we called intuition which gives us prior knowledge so if you think he is cheating on you he probably is so you need to take off the blindfold and recognize game then you need to kick him to the curve and hopefully you find a man who deserve your faithfulness untill then keep your head up cause your worth far more
God Bless,hope this advice was useful

Answer 9

hey lovely ladie it sounds a lot like he might be cheating on you for sure as he says he works a lot ofhours but the pay proves different for sure and for the intercourse most of us guys love to have good sex whow you sound very down and should find out for sure but you know if you where my ladie i would love to have intercourse every day or night but good luck to youand i hope i can help a friend out ok you can email me at [e-mail]

Answer 10

Tell him to turn the company in to the wage and hour board for cheating him on his hours. It's their job to get employees the money that is owed them. If he changes his story about why he's short on hours, then something else is going on. You need to find out what it is.

Answer 11

If I had a better feel of what he does for a living that would help. If he has the type of job that pays him a low wage then it is possible that he is getting raped by either his employer or by taxes.