he broke up with me like 3 months ago and he treated me like **** now hes back and telling me he wants to make it work but how can i when he told me he loves me but is not in love with me help me please before i make the wrong decision!!!!!!
2007-01-18 06:04:05 · 11 answers · asked by ladymystery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he feels like he truly loves you, but the marriage has lost its "passion". He doesn't feel that excitement he felt when you first met. Perhaps you need to go to a counselor or go away together and try to reignite that spark.
Passion hardly is a consistent feeling. It comes and goes. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
If he really means it and is willing to work hard on getting that spark back and committing to the relationship, I think you may want to try.
2007-01-18 06:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That saying is a cop out.
He loves you like a friend but is not IN love with you like married people should be.
If you decide to take him back, make it on the condition that you both attend some marriage counselling. He broke your trust once... are you willing to get back into it? Do you trust him enough this time around? Not to mention that you said he treated you like ****. Do you want to be with someone who treats you like ****? That you don't trust? And who could possibly not be IN love with you like you are with him?
I think a lot of talking is in order before you agree to get back together.
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-18 06:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is continually an selection, inspite of in case your faith doesn't understand it, I doubt they approve of adultery. in case you'll stay along with your husband you want to provide up the different guy and placed your all into your marriage. If no longer, go away your husband and be along with your love. searching for useful suggestion does no longer mean getting acclaim for dishonest on your husband, in love with some different person or no longer.
2016-11-25 01:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend please don't be this man's doormat!! I've seen and heard way too many stories like yours.
When a person treats you like **** that means they have no respect for you.
If you take him back now only after 3 months he'll never have respect for you, ESPECIALLY if you take him back after him telling you that he loves you and is not in love with you.
When a person tell's you they love you but they aren't in love with you, it's pretty much a future disclaimer they are putting in with you so that if you are stupid enough to take them back they have it to fall back on once they leave you again. And trust me they will leave again. That "I love you but I'm not in love with you" bullcrap is just a set-up for his future exit from your life.
In other words your husband is saying: "You do enough FOR ME to keep ME around until I meet someone I do fall in love with or until I get tired of you. And then I will dump you again."
Remember he wants to make it work for HIMSELF and HIS OWN BENEFIT. You obviously provide something for him that he rather enjoy than be alone and single. Some people just like to stay in relationships so they aren't alone, but they aren't emotional committed to the relationship either. Him wanting to make it work has nothing to do with you or your relationship, it's all about him and it's pretty selfish.
He did a very crappy thing to you for someone who calls themself your husband. My advice is don't take him back, unless he works for it, agrees to couples counseling, and really fights for the relationship.
Remember something casually discarded that is easily obtained again is usually not worth much to the finder. Show him what your true worth is and don't take him back.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 06:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by hw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means nothing. It's a cop-out for saying he doesn't want to put work in marriage anymore. "love" is a verb; it doesn't come naturally after the honeymoon phase wears off - you have to work at it to keep it strong. Your husband just got lazy and doesn't want to put the effort into maintaining your love and relaitonship anymore.
2007-01-18 06:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mam being true if u love someone they can never break up and i do understand and even u mite witness people giving u this quote ki true love comes back but what if he ditches u again..trust me life is filled with people breaking our trust at every moment so please safeguard urself and wud request u to think twice before going bacck if u feel u need to go back
2007-01-18 06:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by sameer_billu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His feelings for you are platonic. You're his comfort zone. He is open to fall in love with someone else. Don't put yourself through it.
2007-01-18 06:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Thinking 'bout it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take him back unless he agrees that you both see a marriage counsellor first and lay everything on the table and decide if this is what you both want
2007-01-18 06:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by crooky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he treated you like that, why should you give him one more chance by forgiving him?
When he didn't give you respect, even you should'nt.....
Listen to your heart and do what your heart says and I'm sure that you'll solve this..........
2007-01-19 22:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you like a human being but is not in love with you LIKE A LOVER . YOU DON'T LITE HIS FIRE.
2007-01-18 06:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋