I`m about to make a decision..... divorce !!!! I`, scared cos my husband is good, he has weaknesse4s but overall he is good and at times very good. Its my mother-in-law.... I`ve tried years of "poor old lady".... then years of .... "but she has good qualities too".... and then years of.... "patience and forgiveness".I`m not gonna mention here all the things she does or doesn`t do. But I`m afraid now I am becoming like her.... this is the worst part. So now before I loose all my moral I think I have to say bye bye to my husband..... who thinks if anyone is wrong or psychic its me.... he has made me believe I`m psychic and weak.... I`m loosing my character and before I become a monster like her or worst than her..... I must say goodbye. Marriage is not the only thing in life after all.......esp if its ruining you psychologically and morally.
Anyone in my boots ? Pls suggest.
2007-01-18 06:01:58 · 7 answers · asked by Who? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like GROWING UP would help a lot.
2007-01-18 06:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you need to get a divorce because you don't love your husband enough to stay married to him. You don't have to become your Mother in Law unless you admire her ways of doing things. You are in loveless marriage and finding every excuse to leave so all you have to do is pack that bag and be on
your way. You don't like being married to him even though you compliment him as being a good husband you don't want him anymore and do both of you a favor file for divorce. Let him find someone that he wants him and find someone that you really love.
2007-01-18 14:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good man and you love him, then don't give your mother-in-law the satisfaction of seeing you gone. Stay in there and fight for your marriage. I suggest you and your husband go to a marriage counselor. You can't give up on a good man just because he has a crazy mother. You will not turn into her unless you want too. So take a stand for your marriage and your vows and make it work.
One tip...when you talk to your husband about counseling, don't tell him "it's because of your diabolical mother". No one can ruin your marriage except for you and your husband. Obviously there's a lack of communication in your marriage and you need a third party (who has nothing to do with you guys) to help you communicate.
Don't give up. Stay and fight for your marriage.
2007-01-18 14:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's terrible what you're going through and you are not alone. I feel that if you love your husband and you want this marriage to work, you should sit down with him and discuss the mother-in-law issues with him. Set some boundaries and distant yourself from her. Don't let this bitter lady take control of your life with your husband...I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-18 14:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not divorce because it is not your husband doing this... You just need to cut times with the mother in law... You need to focus on just your husband and marriage and not on her and the negative things. You may need counseling and help for this.
2007-01-18 14:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean psychotic not psychic. If you really love your husband then you should stay with him but get counseling for both of you. If you don't love him then why stay and put up with the psycho?
2007-01-18 14:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said what you need to do. If your looking for an answer for your problem you are going to get alot of different answers but no one can give you the right answer but yourself. You know the situation you also know you are not happy so why stay if everyone is unhappy.
2007-01-18 14:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by evie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋