I have read a lot of answers to various questions that suggest if a spouse cheated, they could be forgiven...even in the event of catching a disease including HIV.
What are your thoughts?? Would you forgive? Why or why not?
2007-01-18 05:52:32 · 18 answers · asked by Neea_Gastino 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
its society that makes it ok to cheat... i would be forgiving because my god is forgiving, but it would be a very hard for me to do as well...
if i did not have jesus in my life, i would not be as forgiving, but jesus died for my sins and that is why i am so forgiving now... he didnt have sins but he still died for me
2007-01-18 05:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe cheating should be accepted, ever.
Many people will accept cheating for several reasons.
If someone has been with a specific person for a long time it is often difficult for them to imagine, let alone actually live, without that other person.
In short it is simply much easier to accept the cheating and go on being whoever they always were.
Others may have children and not want to seperate and risk hurting their kids.
My future mother in law has not worked in 15 years, if her husband cheated, she'd stay with him for economic reasons.
Younger people probably stay with one another because it looks good or they think they really like the person they are with (without paying attention to the fact that they'd cheat).
2007-01-18 06:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does no longer forgive because i'd in no way do this no count number how undesirable it receives so i do not exspect my husband to both the vows i stated quite meant the international to me and that i does no longer spoil them and if he did that would want to properly be a deal breaker i visit't even forgive for some words stated a lot less snoozing with yet another lady i could not stay with that wide-spread.human beings do not care about marriage and what it ability anymore they only cheat or %. up and go away even as issues get demanding.
2016-11-25 01:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by bernabeu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never forgive, but it's for personal reason.
My wife used to (and still does) hammer me for fidelity when there was nothing to warrant it.
She would watch Oprah or Donahue or whatsoever show, see that I had the "signs" of being unfaithful and go mental on me.
I want to state that AT NO TIME have I even considered stepping out on her. I took (and take) my marriage vows very seriously.
If that happened, if I found out she was having an affair, she is to the curb, no second chance EVER, just because of her stance ont his. Even a liberal has his limits.
2007-01-18 05:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems like cheating is in the air now a days. Once something is too common to the community people do not care too much about that and take it as it is normal. But it should not be accepted
2007-01-18 06:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not forgive a cheater because there is something in the relationship missing and that's what is sought out when cheating occurs and once a cheater,always a cheater.it should only take one time for that lesson.cheating is widely accepted by men and women who are weak and gullable and like to be doormats and don't mind being fools.
2007-01-18 05:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a part of life, if you're a man the chances that you are going to get some *** on the side while you're married are about 92%... we're just hard wired that way, we're weak in that way.
Getting some *** here and there is going to happen but a real man would keep it completely out of site and out of his home as respect ot his wife and family...a real man never forgets that his wife is the mother of his kids and she is flower of is world. I make love to my wife,
I phuck the other woman.
Yeah yeah, blah blah blah, most of you here preaching about values and sounding like Montel, yeah you're going to cheat too. I know for a fact I'm stronger and more discipline than at least 90% of you and if I fall victim to it, I know you guys are gonna cave sooner or later.
2007-01-18 05:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by huckleberry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not so widely accepted! ... It's just general mentality on 'how do you prevent it / stop it / keep it from happening after the 1st time. ... without committing an act such as murder that in itself changes the course of your life dramatically, permanently and forever.
I myself would forgive not so much for his sake, but more importantly for my sake. As I am not going to let it fester and eat myself alive thus keeping me from enjoying life. Time is too short not to stop and smell the roses as the saying goes...........
The bloke would just cut off his own nose to spite his face....... As what could have been is not to be .... no more.
And I would go on with life enjoying all the small steps that make beautiful memories as watching children and grandchildren and godchildren make discoveries, take first steps, explore outdoors, etc.
2007-01-18 06:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, here is how I see it
the best possible situation is that two humans love each other and please each other totally for a lifetime or so
we all know this rarely happens, even for good healthy honest well meaning people
so when the pres accepts a little on the side MOST people (at least the ones under 60) sort of understand it
if we could safely get some more without hurting anyone, most of us would
2007-01-18 05:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never ever forgive my spouse if she cheated on me. Maybe it (cheating) feels good but that's only for a moment. And like drugs, it's addictive. Maybe the person who cheats has some things that they think it's reasonable. Well that's very relative and personal. For me, you can't cheat on your spouse for whatever reason.
2007-01-18 06:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by guni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I wouldn't forgive. I'd move on and find someone who doesn't cheat.
They ARE out there! :)
There NO excuse for cheating. Things need to be worked out between the couple, instead of making things WORSE by going to outside sources.
2007-01-18 05:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋