ok here is the deal hubby likes (loves) for me to take control in bed. I am not really sure how to do this. He is much more experienced at this than am I and has dated so fairly freaky women. And done some insane things in my opinion How do I become more dominate and controlling in bed....any advice is helpful but please keep the rude comments to your self.
Thank you
2007-01-18 05:51:22 · 6 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok let me clarify ... I am not talking about taking control...the man has been choked during sex before and has a tendency to reach for my throat ALOT but he knows that i do not like or want to do that. SO needless to say he is very into the kinkier stuff. I am more reserved but not innocent.
2007-01-18 06:21:13 · update #1
experiment with different actions during foreplay and sex, if he wants you to become more wild in the sac then he probably will give off a moan when he likes something, when he does go back and try it again then move on but remember that move, if he really liked it when you go back a short while later and he will moan even more, that would be one thing he likes alot, I'm not into the whole dominatrix thing but I have read that these people have no boundaries (ei. he won't mind a finger in the anus at the right time, make sure he is fresh out of the shower for that one!) Tie him up to the bed posts, then you'll really find out the hot spots through increased moaning. If he doesn't moan then you have to let him know that you need some type of cue when you are doing something he enjoys, communication is a big part of taking your sexual desires to the next level
Worst comes to worst visit some x-rated sites on the net and click on Domination and stuff like that, they are the pros's
2007-01-18 06:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To take control and be a little more dominating in bed for you is to slow things down to your speed, your pace. Just a gentle, teasing push-back just to have it your way. Just telling him to lay for a while and experience what you would do to him will help.
It's not as much about the physical force. It's got to do with controlling the time and tempo in bed. And the most important factors in a dominant role is "self-confidence" and "attitude".
So be self-confident and have an attitude darling. You'll have it your way :-)
2007-01-18 06:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Take control, turn him, put his hand here or there, grab his hair, turn his head, tell him to go down, make it known where you want it and how you want it.
Don't tease that's annoying.. (well he might like that too) but if he wants you to take control do just that. Be direct and physical.
eh something like that.
2007-01-18 06:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by tejanomoreno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. You should be in control.Women are always in control there even though men think they are.
2007-01-18 06:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a necktie and use your imagination. oh yeah- they dont say,"the best place to be in the world is on top.",...for nothing.
2007-01-18 06:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you can try an adult novelty store. bondage is what it's called.
2007-01-18 05:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋