unconditonally, and really want things to work out, how can you win him back or how do you move on when you have no confidence in yourself
2007-01-18 05:37:44 · 13 answers · asked by broken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do it by taking one step at the time.....in the RIGHT direction! Not being funny, but you have to take the first step toward accepting who you are, where you need to go, and the path you need to take to get there. Along the way, as you take these steps, you will gain confidence in yourself and your accomplishments, and each step gets easier to take. The hard step to take, is the first one. Your husband is not in love with you, and has told you so. The first step you need to take, is to file for divorce. Once you've done that, you'll be well on your way to a better life, and finding a man that will love you, and be in love with you. Good Luck!!
2007-01-18 05:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Alright, I will tell you what a marriage counselor once told me. When a couple is in love, it is an instant, fireworks, you are the only one I could ever want I will do anything for you, stars in your eyes, kind of love. This is something that starts right off the bat. For a couple to love each other, this is something different, not necessarily bad, but a couple that loves each other, will just have to work harder at it than a couple that is "in love" with each other. A couple who loves each other, but were not "in love" to begin with, can never become "in love." Does that make sense? In any case, if he doesn't understand it this way and is not willing to WORK to keep your love for each other alive, then this always loving but not being in love thing, is just a copout and you deserve better and there is no doubt someone out there who will love you or maybe you will even find that stars in your eyes firework kind of love, but if not, just being loved is a wonderful thing. Good luck to you!
2007-01-18 13:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good book for you is Why Men Love Bit**es. It will give you a whole new outlook on what your husband wants. Loving someone, but not being in love, is usually just because other things (being busy, being angry) are blocking the feelings. It would be a good idea to go to a marriage counselor together--or by yourself if needed.
2007-01-18 13:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he is probably infatuated with someone else at the moment. It might help to know with whom you are competing, but that isn't essential.
Whatever you've been doing, do it a bit differently. Try to put a little mystery and glamour back into your relationship. Don't go overboard trying to please him, but do go overboard trying to make yourself extra desirable, glamorous and a little mysterious. Even if this doesn't win him back, you'll be better equipped to move on!
2007-01-18 13:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's found someone else and this is his way of feeling less guilty. They also say that they "never really loved you." That gives them an out. Find a boyfriend and make your husband move out. He has the hots for someone else. It IS NOT love that he feels for the other person, trust me. .
2007-01-18 13:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Unconditionally" no, you do not love your husband unconditionally, you may love your child unconditionally, but not your spouse.
He may always love something about you, however over a period of time when he is away from you, he will love someone else, and not you. Yes, you love him now, and for your sake, I hope you move on, so that you may love someone else. "Love is helpless, it comes and goes" We have to learn as humans to cherish it while we have it, and move on when we do not.
2007-01-18 13:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should be with someone who appreciates you and if you love him and he doens't love you then you deserve better. Trust me you will gain your confidence back but you need to be with someone who apreciates you for you.
2007-01-18 13:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Trey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused with your question. How do you know he doesnt love you when you tell him that? You shold just let go and see if he really does love you....and if he doesnt chase after you, hes not worth it
2007-01-18 13:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lili 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he means by this.... You need counseling for you and for your marriage.... Ask him why he feels this way and what you can do to make him feel different about you and your marriage. I hope things get better for you and your marriage soon.
2007-01-18 13:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he can commit has nothing to do with you. Stop blaming yourself. It is his deal. You will be happy if you let yourself.
2007-01-18 13:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋