I broke up with my ex 2 months ago, beacuse he was abusive and lying to me ... i know he really loved me .. but he towards the end used to threaten me, hit me and even after our breakup recetly came used to threated to stell stuff about me and HIT me ...
just got a call from him -- he has move to the US from India... in matter of a week ???... I hung up when i hear his voice then i got an email from him saying that he is now 1000 of miles away from me and tyhat he has left me in peace and to go ahead and ejoy my life....
I am feeling so lonely .. should i reply to him?.. should i let it be ... do i belive him that he is really gone from this city and this country ...
why does he do this.. i just put my mind to rest and thing thing hits me again .... will it never stop hurting?.. i saw him just last friday when he came and hit me and i threated to tell the police.. is he really gone
should i believe it
2007-01-18 05:02:21 · 24 answers · asked by Princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys I love all.... U guys stoped me from falling into the same snake pit.. thank u so much .... !!!....
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2007-01-18 05:49:47 · update #1
The reason he is doing this is because you allowed him to have power over you. If he was abusive, his @$$ should have been in jail, with a lawsuit to follow. He other than the break-up, he saw no consequences of his actions. You yourself said you are feeling so lonely when you should feel liberated. You are still holding a candle for this @$$hole and I really don't know why. If you want this to end, release his hold you. Pay him no mind. No phone calls, no-emails, change your numbers, etc and get a restraining order. Once he sees that you mean business, his true cowardice will show and he will back down.
Don't feel lonely, feel liberated and find a support group for abused women.
And say a prayer, you will feel much better.
Godspeed
2007-01-18 05:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing and don't respond to him. He is dangerous, and how do you know if he's going to hurt you again? You don't. He abused you, not just once, but twice and nobody has the right to do that to anybody. That's why if he calls again, or comes near you, you call the police and get a restraining order on this guy. Whenever you feel lonely, talk to a friend, or a co worker, or your family. Have a friend or a family member stay with you for a while if that helps you feel safer. Good luck.
2007-01-18 05:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him pull you back into an abusive relationship; or any relationship for that matter. Even if he is 1000 miles away, he will still attempt to control you through intimidation, pity, and anything else he can do.
The pain will end when you truly believe you are better off without him and a better person then him. You can not change him, so don't even think about it.
2007-01-18 05:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does NOT love you or he would not have treated you that way. Don't respond to the e-mail...it's a trap to lure you back and keep you upset. Also...DO NOT trust what he says about leaving the country until you can find out for sure. Chances are that he's hoping you let your guard down, and the first chance he gets when he sees you out...he will go after you. This man is violent...stay away from him and don't trust anything he says
2007-01-18 05:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be. He is just trying to get a response from you or guilt you into feeling exactly the way you're feeling. Move on. If he hit you and hurt you, he doesn't really love you - he only knows how to be controlling - it is NOT love.
2007-01-18 05:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i tell you is too be careful once a man does something more than once he will keep on doing it and your better of single than 9 feet under ground!!!! believe me when time passes by and he comes around just to be on the safe side never forget what he did and once said sometimes they want you too forget so they can come back in and think that its ok and do it again....just think you never ever end up knowing a person no matter who he/she is....
2007-01-18 05:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by ladymystery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe it go and get a restraining order on him dont think just because he is gone he cant come back and find you and do the same thing to you again.no you should not reply to him i thought you said that you were trying to go on with youre life then do it go out and find someone else there is someone for everyone without hurting them for everybody.i hope you can find happiness
2007-01-18 05:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you knew he really loved you, are you blind love is not about lying and hitting. He didnt love you he just wanted to be in control of you. If I were you I would ignore him and contact the police.
2007-01-18 05:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by evilgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go find a new hobby, something that you like doing that will take your mind away from him, then as you continue enjoying something different, you'll meet new people and maybe a new boyfriend, hurt does go away, but you need to do something about it, get out and do something.
2007-01-18 05:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by CoWBoY829 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl ,this is stalking. Tell the police. Get a restraining order and stay away from this jerk.
2007-01-18 05:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by cherylc53 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋